and he's in a hurry to go home once he gets me in the chair and all he does is put on a permanent cap i'd been waiting on Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr I expected to have 2 more root canals ad start working on a bridge. I did stick my head in his office as I was leaving and asked what the plan was for the next visit he said he'll do the bridge prep work then and of course i've already payed the $3,800 for all this work to get done, grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
Then I had ordered a presciption from a canadian pharmacy because it was 3 times cheaper then I would have to pay here, I send the fax of the prescription to them and wait, week goes by I called last week and they couldn't tell me about the order, I call again monday and they had me on hold for half and hour so I hung up and emailed them , still no answer yesterday so I call again wait 15 minutes finally get someone on the phone she tells me they never got the faxed script so I told her just to cancell the order.
Now i am getting ANGRY as heck but i'm holding it all down trying not to go off on these people but i'm not sure I can much longer this is no way to be running a business and its hard as hell for me to be polite and pleasant and tell people i'm not satisfied with the way i'm getting treated.
I can so relate. It's very difficult for me to express my dissatisfaction over others' services too, especially when they are are my friends too. I either suppress it all fearing that I might end up severing all ties with these people or go overboard and end up being really nasty with them.
However, I have realized today that it is ok to have such feelings regarding others, and to express them in a clear and respectful way. That I must be assertive. I cannot sacrifice my needs and requirements in the process of putting up with these people's below-the-mark services. By clear and respectful ways, I don't mean that I must think it all out thoroughly before I communicate these things to them. It comes thru practice, where I learn from the mistakes that occur in the process of trying to express and communicate. Most importantly, the program and it's principles lay down the guidelines and help me in being clear about many such practical issues and situations. Like being assertive, taking care not to offend or hurt anyone in the process, just stating how I feel about the situation instead of blaming or ridiculing others, and requesting others if certain changes are possible. If they refuse, that for me means that my Higher Power is asking me to move on. To seek better services. Or if that is not possible, my Higher Power is giving me an opportunity to practice patience, tolerance and acceptance in such situations.
The paradox of practising these principles of the program is amazing in a way as no matter what happens, good things or bad things (according to my desires), my way or not, I always gain and grow a lot in the process ending up more tools in my recoverybox to use in future situations. This confirms for me more profoundly that my Higher Power's love for me is unconditional and total. If I trust my Higher Power and accept everything as it is or as it transpires, I have only to gain, be it success or failure, joy or pain, gain or loss, celebration or grief...
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"If we do an honest examination of exactly what we are giving, we are better able to evaluate the results we are getting."Chapter 10 - Emotional Pain - NA Way of Life.
My next appointment is next month so thats enough time to cool down and come up with a plan with that dentist LOL
The pharmacy thing I just told them nicely to cancel my order and refund the money back to my credit card so no problem I stayed calm it wasn't the gals fault on at the answering service that I was having trouble.
It's up to me using this program and working on changing my actions and reactions to people places things and situations, I don't have to let things upset me thats a choice I make and I am responsible for whatever comes of it. This is something that i've learned just in the last few months and actually practice it daily and things have changed so much from that, I catch myself wanting to fall back into that other behavior and I have to force myself to stop it and let it go , not make a big friggin deal out of every little thing
I agree though Tahir this is a opportunity for me to pracitce something in an area I need work in thats for sure, thanks again man your always a clear picture in a shadowy world...
