My soon to be brother in law has been living with me for four weeks now. He moved from out of the state and left a significant other of 6 years and a daughter (not biological) in the previous state. He was on heroine, oxy, prescription drugs among others. He is very depressed and has spent the last four weeks laying around the house watching tv. I have given him all the information for the local meetings and I really think that he needs help that is beyond me. How do I get him to go without forcing him or threatening?
I already know where the meetings are and the times and days for all of them and I have offered to drive him, he is not receptive to the idea, how should/can I get him to go?
he has used up everyone, he has no money, I won't let my fiance supply him with cigarettes or beer anymore. He has a place to stay at the moment, but we are his last hope, he is 2,000 miles away from home and no one "home" will take him in. There is no family left to turn to, we are his last resort, and he came here saying that he wanted to stop using and turn his life around. Was he just saying that so that we would move him down here or does he really want to change?
worriedsister, Might I suggest visiting http://www.12stepforums.net/alanon.html . This is miracles in progress al-anon website..complete with a chatroom to discuss the problem with others in the same position you find yourself in. While Narcotics Anonymous is in no way affiliated with Naranon or Alanon, I believe they would be a valuable resource for you. Alanon would work locally too, because the disease is the same..just the symptoms (drug of choice) differs. best wishes, Lon
-- Edited by Lon at 20:01, 2006-10-31
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