just found this somewhere and boy ,oh boy, does it ever sound like me, no wonder i became a druggy and had the people in my life that i did...the funny thing about it is that my parents rarely drank , guess they were just dysfunctional....i could of done a thousand times worse then them, they loved me and what more can a person ask for in there parents , they did the best they knew how. i only wish that they could of gotten the help i'm now getting through NA.
i heard somewhere that for the lucky ones who stay clean , which sad to say the odds are against most of us , but for the lucky few , there quality of life is better then the normal person out there that has no addictions to drugs or alcohol....
way to go guy!!!!!!! not only do we help each other stay alive and stay clean, but we help each other get better lives...better then the average "joe blow" on the streets. ... and here i thought we were the odd balls, the screw ups. just goes to show you that HP works in mysterious ways.. hope everyones having a great day...
Here are some common characteristics of Acoas ( adults who grew up in alcoholic or other dysfunctional homes)
1) We have feelings of low self-worth, and judge ourselves and others without mercy 2) We tend to isolate and feel uneasy around people we do not know, especially authority figures 3) We are approval seekers , and will do anything to get people to like us 4) We are intimidated by angry people, and personal criticism. 5) We habitually choose to have relationships with people we can pity or rescue 6) We live life as victims and are attracted to other victims in our love and friendship relationships. 7) We are either overly responsible or very irresponsible 8) We feel guilty when we stand up for ourselves or act assertively. 9) We deny, minimize, or repress our feelings. 10) We have dependent personalities and are terrified of rejection or abandonment. 11) Denial, isolation, control, and misplaced guilt lead us to feel helpless and hopless. 12) We have difficulty with intimate relationships. We feel insecure and lack trust in others. We don't have clearly defined boundaries, and become enmeshed with our partner's needs and feelings.
Not to forget our "Seducer" and "Offender" roles when the "Victim" role doesn't work... lol...
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"If we do an honest examination of exactly what we are giving, we are better able to evaluate the results we are getting."Chapter 10 - Emotional Pain - NA Way of Life.
