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babygirl


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hi, i know this might not be something you're really supposed to post on here,

but i'm not sure who to talk to about it. 

I recently started dating someone who is new to recovery... only about 4 months. 

It has been going really well and we have been together for two of those months. 

I knew going into it that he wasn't supposed to be dating and we have both talked about it since then.

He focuses a lot on his meetings and his recovery and I support him 100% even if that means not spending time or talking to me for awhile.

 

However, I'm not 100% sober. I do smoke weed, even though I haven't since we have been together.

I do plan to very soon in the future, I'm actually quite a pot head, which is something we had also discussed before dating. 

 

I guess my question is...

How do i continue to support his recovery without potentially harming it also with my marijuana use? 

Is it possible? 

 



-- Edited by babygirl on Friday 11th of January 2019 05:37:35 PM

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Davethewave


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Thanks for posting baby girl. I hope you at least stick around long enough to read this.

I smoked it everyday for 39 years. MJ wasn't the problem, I was. It took me forever to realize this. It wasn't until I finally stopped that it dawned on me that I have problems...and it wasn't the drugs.

I have no idea what you should do. We suggest those coming into the program don't do anything drastic for 1 yr. What happens is that instead of focusing on our recovery...we start focusing our attentions on seeking the attention of a lover who's affirmation is all we need to make everything right....In other words we stop working on ourselves.

But I'm not your age, and I wouldn't dare tell someone they should deprive themselves from being with someone as special as you are. So for no try not to use around him. If you can't....then maybe you need to come back into the rooms. I hope it works for you.



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