Alright I'm getting married in 2 days so we have a couple people in town staying at our house. One a "recovering" addict who has no respect for anything. He went to rehab and calls himself clean yet has smoked probably 4 bowls of weed and has been drinking for 14 hours since he got here. I really hate people who say they are clean yet smoke weed and drink because that doesn't count it wasn't their D.O.C. It doesn't fricken matter if it was your drug of choice or not it's still a drug! He is a spoiled rich kid who's daddy pays for everything. He has no job no car and gets handed money for whatever he wants. (He's throwing up in the bathroom right now). I welcomed him into my house that I spent all week cleaning! I go to bed at 930 because I haven't been sleeping trying to get shit ready for the wedding so I'm tired. He wakes me up at 1145 yelling and screaming in the living room either at the tv or on the phone with someone. And slamming doors and cabinets and drawers in the kitchen. FOR AN HOUR! I go out there multiple times and tell him to stfu. At this point I'm wide awake now. So then I go out in the kitchen to get some water and there are beer bottles everywhere, food all over the floor, the floor is sticky, empty food containers all over and we gets ants if we leave food out. Does he not know what a flipping garbage can is?! I spent a week, A WEEK cleaning the house and this is the thanks I get for letting you stay at my house? I'm pissed. I'm beyond pissed. It's now 3am guess I'm not getting any sleep again! And I am not pleasant if I don't sleep. He is in for a rude awakening in the morning.
Now I know alcohol is a drug. What are thoughts on people who say they are clean yet smoke pot and drink?
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. ....'' Now I know alcohol is a drug. What are thoughts on people who say they are clean yet smoke pot and drink?''
...I'm betting that this and all your questions are rhetorical---one's you already know the answer to,,,and yes,my question is also rhetorical.... It doesn't take much of time in the program to know these answers!
...so is this a member of the family you're marrying into?....or your HP's way of sending you a test of your boundaries?... I don't know,,but it does seem to be a relevant question as to how you handle things in the morning.
....I hope you find a way to maintain your serenity through your challenges....a loss of temper is a loss of dignity and control --good luck with it all.
...or as your signature says......"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
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...gawd,,,please don't let me -ever- forget why I came here in the first place!!(my 'senility' prayer)
If it's your house you have the right (and responsibility) to set house rules. If a guest can't/won't abide by them, 86. Relative or in-law or Joe blow, doesn't matter.
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I agree it's your house , abide by your rules or hit the road. You are offering a roof over the persons head and they abuse . Clean is clean not drinking or smoking dope ,I hope maybe a lesson is learned by this , you try and help but they don't want it .
Congrats on your wedding Liz! Sounds like your guest is somewhat of a "ghost of X-mas past or future". Sometimes our higher power tends to put people in our lives to show us something. I hope you threw him out and gained a repulsion that will keep you clean and sober.
Sorry it took so long to respond. I did not kick him out even though I wanted to and knew I should have. He was asked to clean up his mess and puke all over the bathroom but didn't. He went to New York with us on our mini honeymoon which pissed me off but I didn't trust leaving him in our house with our dogs. I have never been so annoyed by someone in my entire life. I had to take him to the er which he refused to go to for days but I was going to kill him. My house is still a mess from him because I started back at work and I'm just so exhausted from the wedding that I haven't had time to clean up and put my house back together. And now I'm dealing with the death of a friend and my best friend is moving across the country in a couple weeks and I just want to stay in bed in the dark and drift away. I need a vacation.
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He went with you on your mini honeymoon? Why would anyone do this? A honeymoon is supposed to be special, couple-bonding time. This whole situation sounds very sick to me.
He went with you on your mini honeymoon? Why would anyone do this? A honeymoon is supposed to be special, couple-bonding time. This whole situation sounds very sick to me.
+1 Sounds like some serious enabling going on. Maybe time for Nara/Alanon...
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