These defects grow in the dark and die in the light of exposure.
Basic Text, p.32
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The Fifth Step asks us to share our true nature with God, with ourselves, and with another human being. It doesnt encourage us to tell everyone every little secret about ourselves. It doesnt ask us to disclose to the whole world every shameful or frightening thought weve ever had. Step Five simply suggests that our secrets cause us more harm than good when we keep them completely to ourselves.
If we give in to our reluctance to reveal our true nature to even one human being, the secret side of our lives becomes more powerful. And when the secrets are in control, they drive a wedge between ourselves, our Higher Power, and the things we value most about our recovery.
When we share our secret selves in confidence with at least one human beingour sponsor, perhaps, or a close friendthis person usually doesnt reject us. We disclose ourselves to someone else and are rewarded with their acceptance. When this happens, we realize that honest sharing is not life-threatening; the secrets have lost their power over us.
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Just for today: I can disarm the secrets in my life by sharing them with one human being.
In Step Four and Five , we begin sharing our secrets with our sponsor , he usually doesn't reject us . We know we are rewarded with their acceptance .By doing this we know our secrets have lost there power over us .
