Hi everyone! I joined this site to can information and to talk about my little sister. My sister is 24 years old and recently her and her bf split up. This was her first love and they were together for 3 years. Well after the break up she moved back home and came out and told my family that she has been using heroin for a year and a half now. She has been snorting it. She said it started off as a pill addiction and it just escalated. She also smokes pot but has been doing that for years. She also stated that she wanted to get clean. Well we all had high hopes. She went for a refferal and she signed a piece of paper saying information could be shared with my family, (She is under their insurance) WELLLL it was shared that she was using and lying about using. Well my parents told her since she lied that she was no longer to use the car to go anywhere. Well now she is refusing to go to treatment. She has alienated the entire family. She won't even talk to me and we have always been close. (She is 24 and I am 26). I know we can't make the decision for her she needs to, but I am just so lost! I just want to scream at the top of my lungs. I know that it won't help but it is how I feel. My parents have basically told her she goes, or she is out of the house without a car or cell phone. Any advice is much appreciated. Thanks.
Probably the best thing you can do is go to some Nar-Anon or Al-Anon meetings. These are programs for family members affected by drug or alcohol abuse. They emphasize that you cannot control the addict or alcoholic.
Thank you both! I am going to a naranon meeting on tuesday in my area. I know I can't convince her to go, it is just so frustrated. She won't talk to me at all right now. All I can do is hope she does the right thing. She knows TOO many people in my area she can get drugs from and her friends keep enabling her. "Oh ITS not THAT bad" they say.
She thinks that since she is a week clean and has gone through the major withdrawal that she doesn't need rehab or therapy that she is done with all of it.
She thinks that since she is a week clean and has gone through the major withdrawal that she doesn't need rehab or therapy that she is done with all of it.
She is sadly mistaken. Let her try it and see what happens. You can't control her. Addicts are very stubborn people. Lessons about what it takes to recover are often learned only by trial and error, if they are every learned at all.
I agree....the misery of detox will fade. When the pain of life comes knocking and she hasn't learned new ways to deal with it, the old way will call her name.
So she is 7 days clean today. (Or so she says) I don't know what to believe anymore :( and I gave her the number of an outpatient place to call and she called! They can't see her until October 13th!!! A little less then a month. I fear for her until then. And when we were talking the other night I asked her, "weren't you ever afraid you would die?" And she said no because she has been snorting it and she knows how much to do.
