If it's not one type of something it's another that he pulls out for a while. Then it seems to go into regression and then 'bam' he's slurry and ack again.
I have to admit that he sure hid this from me. Really well. We'll be married 2yrs next month.. and wow. I had brothers who were addicts but having a husband that is one -- it is quite awful.
I feel that I really don't have someone who will take care of me, who will be there if I get a flat or have an emergency or just need to talk and talk. I feel that he leaves me alone and goes into his own world-without me. Trust is very difficult lately. He's a wonderful man -- when his mind is available.
I found a site with addresses for Narcotics Anonymous groups and gave it to him, telling him that he needed help and to call someone. He asked me if it was something we could both do together and I told him that I thought that the group was for the users and not for me because I wasn't a drug addict nor an alcoholic. And then I got angry inside.
Why do I have to take the time and energy and effort to go to these meetings--I'm not the one who made the bad habits :( I'm not sure that's the right attitude. I don't know. But I do get pretty angry at times. Inside I get angry. I've never told him that it makes me angry just thinking I may need to attend one of these meetings.
For a short while I went to Celebrate Recovery. I kept looking for myself and didn't see me. Maybe I am blind to myself. I would hear everyone's story and it was one that they went through at one time and maybe now it's a spouse. I've been blessed with good health and am not interested in letting drugs/alcohol control my mind, my body, my health, my words etc.
My brother told me that I needed to insist that he attend meetings and that I need to attend something as well.
Yes an also Nar-Anon.org, more geared to relatives and friends of addicts.I am an addict named Mike and also the parent of a now 26 year old recovering heroin addict.You will learn about the illness,how you didn't cause and can't cure it and how to take care of yourself in trying times living with relatives or friends suffering.You will find others like you whom you can identify with and share your pain ,joy and experience.I can truly identify and will lift you up in prayer.You can google the site a find a meeting place near you....
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Our purpose is to remain clean,just for today,and to carry the message of recovery.
I am in the process of looking for a nar anon in our area. My husband has agreed to go to meetings to help him and I will go with him...I will go with him so that we can 'start' together.
I am in the process of looking for a nar anon in our area. My husband has agreed to go to meetings to help him and I will go with him...I will go with him so that we can 'start' together.
You know, my late husband suffered a work related brain injury and he fought so hard to get back his normal self. He would do anything and everything that he was told to do to get back the brain he once had.
I told my husband that yesterday evening. And I told him that he was doing quite the opposite -- doing whatever he could to get rid of his brain.
He's run out of 'stuff' and I told him yesterday that I hope he wasn't spending 'our' finances on his 'stuff'. So, hopefully he realizes that I realize he doesn't get it free. How can one spend money for stuff like that when we're on a strict budget? I know -- it's all about 'me/self'.
