I still consider myself a newcomer to meetings. ill celebrate 1 year on the 18th...but thats not important, what i need help from anyone willing is I offered to chair for the month of december at my home group and the chair has to bring a topic each week. I wanted to maybe do a topic on gossiping and how we dont think about the consequences of our words. Something happened to a very very new member where people were gossiping about her and she got so upset she almost used (thankfully she didnt) but i didnt know if this was allowed as a topic or how i should go about bringing up gossiping/consequences/affecting others so that its general and not pointed towards any one person. I am really trying to find any topics that would really get people thinking deeper than usual i guess because lately the meeting discussions have been a bit bland? just lemme know! thank you
Gossip is an excellent topic. We talk all the time about the love and fellowship found in the rooms. But there is a dark side to our meetings, and that is gossip. It comes up as a topic every so often...the best quote I heard is that "Gossip is spiritual poison" It hurts the person being talked about and it damages the person doing the talking as well. I applaud your courage in bringing this up...Most newbs to chairing would stick with gratitude, acceptance, willingness etc. I think a good topic would be 'what do we mean when we say we share our experience, strength and hope? So often people dump their crap at a meeting because it's soooo important to "share where I'm at" Is it? Is it really so important to share where your at? Or is it more important to listen to a message of how the steps can keep you clean and change your life? I dunno.....just sayin'
thanks so much for the response, i talked to other addicts and they said it was a so so topic but i agree with what your saying!!! i think ill stick to it and chair with that topic! maybe even throw in remembering what it was like to be a newcomer and applying spiritual principles of recovery when practicing patience and openmindedness towards the stills suffering addict! thanks again!
I would definitely look for it in the JFT but if its not in there maybe pick a topic that is the source of gossip the character defects behind it; pride, jealousy, the fact that we are focused on others when we should be looking at ourselves....
ok now I've just complicated your simple meeting topic! LOL
Gossip is a good topic. You should do it.
But you know everyone will start sharing their personal experience with gossip and leave out the solution haha gotta love NA.
