Hi everyone. I'm a newcomer with 38 days clean. My husband has been supportive though in the beginning he said I needed to do 90 in 90 or he would divorce me. I am happy in my recovery and have met an amazing support group of women.
My problem is that my husband is resenting my recovery because I have asked him not to drink around me (at least for the first 90 days). We are leaving for a trip this week for spring break that we planned well before my relapse. This town is known for it's drinking and my husband wants to drink while on vacation. I am worried because if he does, I'm not exaggerating, I will be the only sober person in town. I am very committed to my recovery but I understand that my disease is not his. I am still in early recovery and drinking in the hot sun on spring break is something I will find very hard to resist if my husband partakes. An suggestions for me?
you just continue to be the strong one and do your best to keep in mind that you are in recovery and you dont want to relapse.... You've heard that saying if put it in your mind that its not cold than you wont be cold, well its kinda the same thing put it in your mind that you dont want to relapse and you wont........... Well I wish you the best and dont let one bad apple ruin all the rest okay??????????
No matter where you go there should be meetings, be it NA or AA. Support is support and you need to put your recovery first above all else. Your husband can't have it both ways....do 90 in 90 and stay clean but oh by the way deal with me drinking too bad so sad.....HUH??? If you are that concerned about relapse, maybe he should go on the trip alone? Look to your HP & put yourself first. You & your sobriety are worth it, for you. By the way, my husband of 27yrs gave me the choice of sobriety or divorce too. At first my sobriety was to save my marriage. It didn't begin to work for me until it was for myself. Good luck & Peace.
What more important to him--you or drinking? If drinking is that important to him, I'd say he has a problem with it. You are in a very vulnerable place in your recovery and you don't need to be around a lot of people drinking.
You don't have to go....... You can choose to stay home this time, keep your meetings up and spend some time with your sponser. Early recovery is a time to practise self care and not to put yourself in vulnerable situations.
In support .I agree ,your recovery must come first!.Without it,all other things will tumble!Be honest in your feelings and allow God(of your understanding) to guide you...
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they all said it already you have to thinkof you and change people and places to avoid temptation the urge to use can be very strong when it is put in your face like that
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