Morning!Welcome to another day of life.I wanted to quickly share something just came to pass in our family nucleus.I believe you may remember ,my son Eric,recovering 24 yr old Heroin addict,had relapsed yet again in August,this year and we basically washed our hands of any contact for awhile until there were any signs of his "working" recovery .(we have been working through many situations of robbery ,and all that"we" as addicts do )when looking to get the next one. Anyway during that short period of relapse,him and his girlfriend,(Bonnie and Clyde!)went to the market ,stole couple bags of shrimp(to sell) for their $$$.He was on 5 years probation and didnt get caught in store but cops got license plate of girlfriends car..Long story short,dont know why he didint get violated then from his probation officer,and probation told Eric that he'll probably just get sanctioned(time added on??)Eric/megan just moved into their own apt,medicaid funded,and getting food stamps while they are deemed unemployable(MEDICAID CALL? )and they seemed to be doing well although both still on 100mg's of juice(Methadone)and don't seem to be thinking coming off.(not my business really)long story short,Eric goes to court yesterday,Judge says no way ,wants minimum 60 days back in jail and if he is violated by probation officer,county year(8 months time)He will detox in jail,lose Medicaid benefits,have to jones from cigarettes and be homeless as will lose apartment if does the year.(consequences!!)..Last night we worked 3rd step in our Homegroup and beside 3rd and 11th steps I work daily in my life it was very timely.We know God's plan is in place and "more will be revealed".We(my wife and I) are staying as far out of this as we can and letting"the consequences take place for the actions taken.Personal responsibility has to be incorporated for them to understand addiction is not only about"using drugs".I know this is a played out story and its really none of our concern but I like to share events that happen in "life on lifes terms" situations.I am not taking their inventory,my own keeps me busy enough,but I continue to see the devastation and after effects of "being in the grip" and remain ever grateful for being able to remain focused.....We place our faith and trust in God's plan..Looks like another Christmas minus family members and such is life.I had asked Eric ,while back to present me with my coin this Monday at my anniversary celebration of life, another year clean..The wreakage of our past may come back to "hold us accountable" how we handle it sets the stage for future recovery.We pray eventually the lesson can be learned.We are okay and in God's grace..Thanks for listening and allowing me to share in my own recovery by getting out of the way,being grateful for where I am at this moment and seeking the will of my Higher Power.Have a blessed and productive day!!
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Our purpose is to remain clean,just for today,and to carry the message of recovery.
I made that real big because thats what we're all having to deal with clean, its why a lot of us couldn't face things before we stopped using, it was just to hard.
And thats why SPIRITUAL PRINCIPLES are so important to get, matter of fact if we don't its very unlikely we'll stay clean for any length of time. Then we have to continue over and over again to practice thoughs principles in alllll our affairs, over and over and over again , through painful times, good and bad.
It's a trip but the more God centered we get the easier it gets. We become less self centered and more God( higher power) centered leaving the will and the results up to him, it, them.
Hoping for the best in your situation, God's will be done...
-- Edited by BigV on Tuesday 30th of November 2010 11:58:41 AM
Mike I was tearing up while reading your post..... I'm going through the same thing at the moment with my close friend who had 5yrs clean but who has been back in active addiction for the past 6mnths. It is hard to step back and let others travel thier own path but that's what we need to do, we are powerless over the lives of others, all we can do is pray that they make it back......
That is some tought stuff. It must be real hard to accept and let go. I have an 18 year old son who has a drug problem. He hasn't gone as far down the road as your son has, but he has definitely had some major consequences (legal, medical) that have been hard for us (and him) to deal with. I pray for you--and for me!
Thanks for sharing ,I have a 20 year old who is living in the grip At least i think he is ,But who am i to say still i worry,it s good to no i m not alone
