Many of us have difficulty admitting that we caused harm for others... We cut away our justifications and our ideas of being a victim.
Basic Text, p. 38
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Our lives are progressing nicely. Things are going good, and each year in recovery brings more material and spiritual gifts. We may have a little money in the bank, a new car, or a committed relationship. We have a little self-confidence, and our faith in a Higher Power is growing.
Then, something happens. Someone breaks into our new car and steals the stereo, or the person were in the relationship with becomes unfaithful. Right away, we feel victimized. Wheres the justice? we wail. But if we take a look back on our own behavior, we may find that weve been guilty of doing whats just been done to us. We realize we wouldnt really want justicenot for ourselves, and not for others. What we want is mercy.
We thank a loving God for the compassion weve been shown, and we take the time to appreciate all the precious gifts that recovery brings.
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Just for today: I will pray for mercy, not justice. I am grateful for the compassion Ive been shown, and will offer mercy to others.
Whenever I do wrong, I pray for forgiveness (mercy) Why then would I pray for punishment (justice) when someone wrongs me?
It's a rhetorical question.
WHY you ask ?
Because most of us become victims, most of us were victims at one time or another and we reacted to that unfair treatment.
Speaking for myself here, I have a resentment against my ex, when i thought things were going good, better for me at least , I was working the spiritual program best I could and doing pretty well for several months with her she decides we have no future and breaks up, lol yeah laughable but really?
I am hurt, rejected, gave her what she wanted , a patient loving understanding man and I got thrown in the wind, I feel hurt and anger but I look at the brighter more spiritual side or try to.
I HAVE made changes , she's hanging onto the past not what i'm doing today thats her problem I cant change whats been done but it helps me accept her decision because I HAVE HURT HER IN THE PAST, I have to take responsibilty for that and respect her decision without trying to control it, yeah it may be she wants to hurt me back , thats her stuff , all i can do is try to be as loving as possible even not getting my own way LOL and i do wish it were different but i havent called or texted her and she's texted me twice in the last month checking up on me but I think that will stop since i pretty much asked her to stop , she said good bye and so have I so i hope thats it and we can both move on from here.
I have felt like hurting her and doing what i've done in the past but i go into prayer first rather then react, thats my only growth but it works....
The God of my understanding has shown me His grace and mercy,I believe that our prayers won't change God's mind, but they may change ours. I think prayer helps us better understand more of God and as hard as it is a a fallen human being to not want to give "my own justice" I believe God will take care of working out justice in His time!! I continue to pray for my Higher Power to forgive me for the times I bought into the values that govern this world and I hope to commit myself to values that will be everlasting...
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Our purpose is to remain clean,just for today,and to carry the message of recovery.
Empathy, forgiveness and understanding are just some of the gift's this programme has given me.......With God in my life anything is possible and I can be the best I can be.......
Good topic. I am sick of being hurt. I really don't want to hurt anyone else, so mercy is what I wish for people that have put some hurt on me. It' s hard to pray for them but in the end it helps out my life.
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