By giving unconditional love... we become more loving, and by sharing spiritual growth we become more spiritual.
Basic Text, p.103
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Most of us have one or two exceptionally difficult people in our lives. How do we deal with such a person in our recovery?
First, we take our own inventory. Have we wronged this person? Has some action or attitude of ours served as an invitation for the kind of treatment they have given us? If so, we will want to clear the air, admit we have been wrong, and ask our Higher Power to remove whatever defects may prevent us from being helpful and constructive.
Next, as people seeking to live spiritually oriented lives, we approach the problem from the other persons point of view. They may be faced with any number of challenges we either fail to consider or know nothing about, challenges that cause them to be unpleasant. As its said, we seek in recovery to forgive rather than be forgiven; to understand rather than be understood.
Finally, if it is within our power, we seek ways to help others overcome their challenges without injuring their dignity. We pray for their well-being and spiritual growth and for the ability to offer them the unconditional love that has meant so much to us in our recovery.
We cannot change the difficult people in our lives, nor can we please everyone. But by applying the spiritual principles weve learned in NA, we can learn to love them.
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Just for today: Higher Power, help me serve other people, not demand that they serve me.
Though he has taken us to the edge, I will continue to love him ,unconditionally and allow God to do His work.For 25 years ,I was "one" of those difficult people.Today,thanks to my HP ,the process of Narcotics Anonymous and the support offered through our program I am not as difficult as I once was.Dear God,continue to allow me the strength and faith to pray for the difficult people,INCLUDING ME,and to release all resentments and focus on your love......Have a blessed and productive day...
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Our purpose is to remain clean,just for today,and to carry the message of recovery.
Currently I am trying to work on the dale carnegie message, do not criticize, condemn, or complain. Myself, others I am neutral towrds, and those I think have wronged me or are in the wrong.
I have learned that loving is not something I do - It is something the my H.P. blesses me with and in turn I can give - but on my own - I am ruthless, selfish, manipulative, and uncaring - So that is why I have to continue to work on my relationship with HP - and what I get is: Loving others, accepting love - forgiveness, acceptance..and Boy do I fail miserable - I thank the Steps for helping me find a new way to live and to grasp and believe in HP
