"When someone points out a shortcoming, our first reaction may be defensive. There will always be room for growth."
Basic Text, p. 36
Recovery is a process that brings about change in our lives. We need that change if we are to continue our growth toward freedom. It's important that we remain open-minded when others point out our shortcomings, for they are bringing to light opportunities for us to change and grow. Reacting defensively limits our ability to receive the help they are offering us; letting go of our defenses opens the door to change, growth, and new freedom.
Each day in the recovery process will bring an opportunity for further change and growth. The more we learn to greet change with an open mind and heart, the more we will grow and the more comfortable we will become with our recovery.
Just for Today: I will greet each opportunity for growth with an open mind.
I also do not like critisism and I can easily get "torqued out if I am adressed by it.I have found though that I am able to learn more now when I surrender the resentment and try and take the instruction.I am human and I may still get in a fit but the difference is now I can honestly say",might got some work to do there,".You better tell me in a :loving manner " though or Im still gonna be twitching!!!!:) Some things are easier than others to adress huh! The change in my life is progressing but it took a long tome to instill all my stuff and probably gonna take a long time to change,one day at a time ,with God's grace Im moving forward..
-- Edited by MIKEF on Sunday 27th of June 2010 10:45:38 AM
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Our purpose is to remain clean,just for today,and to carry the message of recovery.
And some things we're powerless over and use the 7th step on those.
So much needs changing but is it really a LOT ? maybe just a few small details would change everything , yes I think so.
I try not to get overwhelmed let things take there course , be patient, don't use, dont beat myself up and give ourselves a break.
I lost Jenn she's gone mostly due to my defects of charecter I hope never to repeat them with another. I am going on my first date this evening with a gal in the program, 5 years clean and sober, very nice mature lady wish me best guys LOL.
