I have been active on this board for several months and have seen a pattern repeat itself several times.
Newcomers arrive, and are very active for a month or so, then they disappear.
I know it's common for message boards to have visitors come and go, but the people I'm referring to are not just occassional posters, but they join up and get pretty active for a while then they just disappear.
I wonder where they go?
I don't want to assume that they all relapsed and so that's why we don't hear from them. I wonder if maybe they feel there posts are generating responses so why bother?
I dunno
any thoughts?
If someone who fits the description is reading this, maybe you can let us know why you stopped posting?
Been here coming up on 4 years and have seen a lot go down, many have come few have stayed and thats the way it is out here too. I run a wednesday meeting where most of the people who come in are court sent, even with jail or prison looming over there heads they stop coming because of there using and i wonder how they are doing because all of them are good people when there clean and have gotten to know them personally and there troubles, but there just not done yet and we have to let them go finish and be here for them later.
Hey Don! i ALSO HAVE MISSED PEOPLE and wonder BUT IT DOES HAPPEN.A friend who had asked me to share on 2nd step 2 weeks ago at a new meeting,we drove there together and back,went out that next day,never saw it coming.(always lurking!)...i HAVE GONE BACK PERIODICALLY AND PUT PRIVATE MESSAGES on some of these folks boards in case they are just checking in but not participating. I update every few weeks or so or when I remember to..they may feel a number of different emotions,tired of it,relapsed,embarrassed about going out,lost their computer,caught some resentments??Like it says in commercial,We'll leave the light on!!Have a blessed day!!
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hey I think i might fall into that category ... though I'm still around, just not very talk active. Though I do not post all the time, I do read all the post and learn from what others are saying. That tends to be my character type: the quiet observer
anyways I think there are more of me out there lol
and a quick update for me is that my life is moving on well.... I'm almost done my first year of college, and I am the top student :)
I am going to Mount Everest with my mom at the end of april to hike to base camp
this is going to be an awesome spiritual journey. We get to go to buddist monasteries and it's Mount Everest. It still seems very surreal in my head but the trip is paid for. :)
and the most important part is that i'm still clean and recovering and if I wasn't nothing of what I said above would be possible
that's me i'm around
Andrea
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Hey everybody! Okay Avid I have to admit I am guilty as charged. I haven't been on lately and yes I can tell a big difference when i stay away. But there are a lot of times when I don't have much time that I still read the new posts and those are my daily dose of reality. Kind of like my spiritual & recovery meds that help me more than you guys could ever imagine. So, please don't ever think for even one minute that this board is not only a lifesaver to people like me but to anyone who has been blessed to just be a part of it. Wheather they simply read the posts or share their stories w/ us. So, please lets all make sure it stays that way.
Forever grateful, Stacey
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