Probably when me and my wife do our monthly paying of bills ,some real hurtful words come out of our mouths.We apologize after but we should not do it.Getting that way is not healthy.We went to an anger management class last year,sometimes we don't practice what we learned.

lmao Liz


well just about 10 minutes ago with my half time girlfriend LOL I had to tell her good night because i was getting a resentment that i wanted to have a serious conversation and she was too tired so i got pissy and said good bye and hung up on her, then she emails and tells me she still loves me even though i hung up on her so I used the prgram and didnt respond becuase I am still resentful LOLOLOL better to calm down first then to react, Tahir taught me that one :)P

Just today, me and my wife had a difference of opinion regarding an issue, so our conversation developed heat. I felt we need a time-out, and so did she. So we let it pass for now, agreeing that we will take up this issue and converse/discuss about it when we both are able to reach back and connect without hostility, with kindness towards each other. 10 minutes passed. She came and suggested I take my lunch since it's too late already. I did just that. This time-out I use for self-introspection, to inventory what I thought, felt, said and did that could have contributed to the situation. I owned my part. I did my Sixth but fell short of following it up with the Seventh, asking my Higher Power to help me do better next time. I am kinda still stuck with how "I" can do better next time by being more calmer, kinder, understanding etc... Now that I share this here, I guess I know where I could go from this 'stuckness'...

Hey Tisa! funny you should asked.I just got out of the woods and my neighbor says to me,Havent seen anyone around here have you?My brothers tires and rims that were in between the garage are missing!Well where would they be says I?So my son says 'we were going to sell them,didnt think they were good etc..So he goes down the street in the parking lot where he was living in a car and brings the tires back.next he wil knock on neighbors door and apoligize,tell neighbor he is very sick.I happen to have chair meeting at my other fellowship tonite,NARANON and will be sharing on co-dependance and putting the addict out.Jail may come first(TOLD MY NEIGHBOR TO CALL POLICE),.My anger and resentments are quelled as I have given it up to my HP,CONTINUE WORKING OVER AND OVER OUR 3RD STEP AND know what we have to do without screaming,yelling,getting sick etc..Iwill be in support group tonight and  I practise the spiritual principles of the program at all costs for the serenity of my recovery!!!When it rains it pours..........

Thanks Tisa for these questions anyway I have come to believe that in NA, what one exactly needs at a particular time in his or her recovery does come their way, through another member... As we say in our fellowship "there are no coincidences in NA"... Thanks to the principle of anonymity, it allows an addict like me who is otherwise used to constantly spinning and projecting my obsessive thoughts on the faces and personalities behind what's being shared, to actually focus on the message instead, finally... Today, I try to just listen to sharings at meetings, without having to obsessize about the person sharing, and see if I get to hear what I could make use of in my life. There was this oldtimer who told me when I was new to the program that my prayers are answered by my Higher Power. He went on to say that actually God speaks back to us, loudly, giving us all the answers and the help that we sought through our prayers, everyday. He said that we only need to be at the meetings to hear God speak. At first, I dismissed this off immediately taking my denial into use, so that I find justification to continue to live in my defects. But slowly when I really worked my Step Two and came to believe (open mind) I realized that this was so true, and so simple in its truth.