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Damaris


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So my friends in the rooms all get together and have great times together and when I ask to be notified when they are going to do something... They forget all about me...  People act like I'm irriplacable but then don't rememebr that I'm not around... Okay so I feel like I'm reaching out and asking for support and yet... Nothing! What do I do??? I really need support because I have alot of time on my hands that I can get my self into trouble if not held accountable... I can justify anything in my head... Okay so now I'm rambling... any one ever gone though this before??? please help!

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LizC


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yes i have. it still happens to me allllllll the time. so i dont really know what to say.

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BigV


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Your counting on addicts ?ok wait a minute right there LOL.


It's up to each of us to make meetings and sometime during that meeting theres announcements, what i do is take a flyer home or write the time and date down I brought home a flyer last night for a toy drive that there having since there going to be cooking a big pig for BBQ so i want to make that HEH HEH


We make ourselves victims hell i do it a lot more then I realize and we blame others for how we feel rather then take responsibility for it, im sure its all in our literature in the NA book some where or I wouldn't be saying this so get into the book and find it . Whatever your going through is in the book what i do is figure out what issue I have give it a name and in the back of the book look it up in the index. For example i look up self pity, and I get on page 77 " self pity is one of the most destructive defects, it will drain us of all positive energy".


And for gods sake don't depend on other addicts to be there for you 24/7 thats what a higher power is for wink

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BigV


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A very VERY important chapter to read is chapter 7

http://www.earthgroupna.org/literature/basictext/chapterseven.htm

ITs describes the type of personalitys we are and things we need to stay on top of as far as character flaws, it helps me remember what i NEED to do when things aren't going MY WAY, shows me how i act out and react but it gives us hope in that there are things we can do to help prevent disaster and even gives up new ways to behave, there are tools like writing, going to meetings, sharing with others in and out of meetings, lots of stuff in that chapter i just spent some time reading it over and found that what i am doing for myself is what i should be doing i need to do more writing jotting down my feelings about certain things and then find someone to talk them over with, like a sponsor which at the moment i dont have but i am shopping for one.

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Tisa2U


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I used to feel the same exact way. As it turned out, I wasn't paying attention to the announcements half the time, and the rest was just a group of people getting together after a meeting, on the spur of the moment, and if I had been there, I would have been included.

One very important thing for me to remember is that my disease wants me isolated... it wants me to feel "apart from" rather than "a part of"... it also wants me to play that poor-me victim role that I played so well in active addiction... if my disease can find any way whatsoever to seperate me, it will take it and run with it. I can't afford to let that happen today if I want to stay clean.

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MIKEF


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Hi Damaris! For me also getting involved in different activities helped keep me in touch.Even when I went back to college I was in my late 30"s and was going to school with kids could have been my kids,was hard for me to assimilate.Even in my meetings when I identify with others it takes me way back to my active years and I have to remember to focus on the "disease" of addiction and not compare with the elements of this day!Fortunately I am able to reach out now and"ask" for help when I need it.Took a long period  for me to get here though....I have a strong relationship with my HP and that also gets me out of my own head...I also talk to myself,answer my own questions,laugh or cry about what I just said and take it from there......my wife says I'll never be lonely!!!!smile 

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LeeU


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just a thought...you invite them...ask them to go to a movie or whatever--if you make an invite a couple of times, maybe they'll wake up

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sstaceye69


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Thanks everybody. I haven't been on in a while. My computer is on the outs. I finally borrowed my sis's laptop for the day. Anyway, I need to hear all of your suggestions & replies probably more than anyone. Hope everyone is doing okay. I am afraid Iam stuck in self-pity, isolating, ect..
Stacey

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