Hey Manon,

Drama is something that we became attached to (addicted to if you will) but it feels like it follows us around (which it does as it's part of our disease). When we realize that the drama is in our head induced by our self centered fear and inaccurate perceptions and not neccessarily attached to people, places, and things, we are on our way to removing the drama. It's true that we do attract and are attracted to dysfunctional people and we interact with them in a dysfunctional manner (I got a LOT OF HELP with this in Codependents anonymous and reading John Bradshaw books) and through our Desire to be a victim (that's right it's a choice) WE victimize ourselves to bring on the familiar feelings that we are attached to. For me, the beginning of my recovery in Coda, began with setting boundaries for myself and others, recognizing my dysfunctional behavior and ceasing it. I stopped treating relationships and sex as a drug and a crutch. I decided to stay out of relationships for 2 years and work on myself to become the healthy person that I eventually wanted to attract. After that 2 years of hard work in ACOA and Coda, I took my sponsors advice and stayed away from the people that I was "naturally" attracted to and hung out with people of high ethics and moral character even if I thought them to be boring (boring is good, safe, reliable, healthy). Drama lives out on the fringe. Drama comes easy with the easy come and easy go people. There are plenty of red flags when we choose not to ignore them. Today I recognize red flags in the first couple sentences that people speak. "Have a nice day" I say as I walk away.