I'm a 23 year old heroin addict, and really need people to talk to that have been there, and help support me through this time. I gave heroin up at one point and it was the best time of my life. I regretable went back to it 8 months ago, because I hooked back up with my ex who is a drug addict. We live together and though he says he wants to quit, he always ends up being the one who gets me back into it. I dont know if this is even where I am suppsoe to post this kind of stuff, but like I said I am new to this, and just really need help
Hello Krikit. I hope you get my message. You are 23 and a heroin addict, aye? God bless you! I have been there, too many times. First, in order for you to get involved, you may have to update your JAVA version, but don't expect much from the CHAT, it seems to be totally f'ed up. Post a discussion in th discussion forum[s]. Invite all that interest you to be a 'friend', update your "Member Status" and reply to others Member Status's. Reach out any and all ways available to you. If you get this message then prompt me... Okay? I will stay up all night with you if necessary, DON"T USE!
Together we stand, divided we will fall, Kory
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Thank you so much, I will do the things you suggested for my account tomorrow, I need all the support I can get, and will reply to others as well, I really want to get involved. I feel better already
Welcome aboard Kristen and remember you are responsible for your recovery if you keep putting yourself in dangerous places then your going to get the same results, no one makes you do anything you are choosing your own fate so change that to start with get some where that you can be safe and get a good start on this.
Hey Krikit, hello and welcome to the board. you know what you need to do, and that's end the relationship and go and get help for yourself. The chances of you getting clean and staying in that relationship are zero, and ditto for the both of you getting clean at the same time, while in the relationship. It's not going to happen. Do you have somewhere safe to move to?
Here is the situation in a nutshell. I told him last night I wanted him to move out, as it is my house. He pleaded with me that he hates living like this, and sincerely wants help. He said he will do anything to not lose me, and wants to start going to meetings and what not. I told him I would see how things go, but the first sign of drugs, he is outta here. Givin you guy's experience, what is your take on this situation? cause if he truly wants help, I want to be there for him, but I am struggling with my own withdrawls as well. Help please!
Hey Krikit, Getting clean for someone else never works. That's why 99.9% have to get down to being single and shed all the enablers and lose most of what they have/had before they really get serious about saving their own butt. Very few, what we call "high bottom" addicts get or stay clean, and they usually wonder for a long time IF they really are an addict. IMO you're wasting your time giving him another chance. He needs to check into rehab somewhere, then attend meetings daily while living in a half way house for a year or two, before he can even think about being (understanding his responsibilities) in a relationship. And he is a also a serious distraction for you, from your recovery. It's very easy (and very codependent) to want to help him while your life goes down the drain. And lastly, if either one, or both, or you got clean, the chances are very good that you'd be incompatible, as far as a relationship goes. What you've got now is a dysfunctional relationship based on addiction. Two people, that are drowning, clinging on to each other hoping they can stay afloat. Not trying to be mean, I know I've been right where you're at and it feels like love and the hurt and pain are just as real, but I'm just trying to paint a picture for you that's vastly different from your current perception. This is an awesome program and you will find folks in the NA meetings that will be genuinely concerned about your recovery. We stay clean by helping others to do the same. Get to some meetings and get busy.
Dean
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Welcome to the site..as stated here in others suggestions you have to 'work' your own recovery.it sounds as if you know that.my 23 year old son is a heroin addict also in abstinence right now.he doesnt believe in program but he is staying clean.i am an active member of NA and at times i probably have "oversuggested " that he start working a recovery program along with staying clean.definitely 2 different animals.he is on suboxene maintenance and taking ssri's for depression.anxiety,violent episodes etc.as an addict and his father the lines get weird at times but i do know that my recovery has to be first in order for me to remain intact,continue saving my life and trying to share the message of hope.....i believe substituting other things for your drug of choice is not the answer as my sons case, but we all have to work our own recovery. NA has helped me excel in my life far better than when i was just "staying clean...your situation is kinda similar to my sons.his 20 year old girlfriend is now doing 2 to 6 in bedford prison for armed robbery,also way strung out when busted...my son and his girlfriend do know that if either one is using they cant be together(THEY MAY NOT HAVE MUCH LEFT IN COMMON NOW AFTER YEARS OF ADDICTION AND NOW SEPARATED BY PRISON WALLS)., i also believe you need to get somewhere safe .... people /places and things are the changes that we need,hopefully that can be your first move.there is a message of hope here and its one day at a time, get with people in recovery,do the work,,it all sounds repititious(is that a word)but its real.you've been clean before so you know what you need to do.i hope the God of your understanding gives you the strength you need to make the correct choices again..keep comin back here.all want to offer suggestions that have helped them continue to stay in "recovery"i'm starting to ramble,hope you come back,peace mikef
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I know all the suggestions seem harsh and are a lot to absorb at one time. Do the best you can. Take it easy on yourself. Keep posting your situation .
Many are recovering today through the gifts of a power greater than ourselves and Narcotics Anonymous . There is HOPE.
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I havent done heroin for two days, and the symptoms are horrible. I had to call into work today because I could barely get outta bed. How long is this gonna last? I cant keep missing work, any suggestions for getting through the pain?
I want to thank everyone for all their input, I read everything and use it to put together my plan of getting sober. It means more to me then you could imagine, to have support from so many people that dont even know me. God Bless all of you.
Hi Krikit, I'm no expert on H withdrawal but the norm seams to be 3-5 days for acute withdrawal. Chances are you've got a full day or two ahead of you like a bad flu. Google withdrawal symptoms and suggestions to lessen them. Good luck and you can do it!
Hot bath soaks. Hot tea , Soda water . Advil, As soon as your up to it day 5 or 6 . Start taking nice easy walks. breathe , Get to a meeting and share. Let them know where your at. You should get some phone numbers . use them. Hang in there krikit. You never have to feel this bad again. EVER !!!
" It is sometimes only with a grim and obstinate willfulness to remain abstinate come hell or high water until a crises passes " Basic text ( recovery and relapse)
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Krikit, You have taken the first step. Your asking for help. I can't tell you what to do but I have been in your exact same shoes in the exact same place and the exact same thing happened. I got out. I can't go back or else I will be right back at that exact same spot. I am not falling for it again. It is the devil and I know that that is just what he wants is to get us back to destroy our life. Are you going to let someone run your life. I'm not. I am here for you to talk about whatever you want. You are young and I wish I would have got out at your age. You have your whole life ahead of you if you get out now. I will pray for you. Do you really love him or the drug? think about it.
