and I guess thats why I forgot to show up and chair my meeting last night.
I did work late it was a LONG DAY prepped and painted a whole 3 bedroom house with one guy helping, got home layed down then ate dinner got into a fight with my girlfriend broke up with her and I cant remember much of anything else yesterday afternoon, no I didnt use but I have been real worried.
My truck has been in and out of the shop for the last 2 months trying to get it repaird for california smog test has cost me mearly $2,000 getting it stuck in the rocks was another $700 then the fuel pump went out last Sunday that was $450.00 I have had to borrow money for that last repair credit cards are maxed out 2 of them, I am lving on borrowed money waiting to get payed for amost $3,ooo worth of work from 2 of my customers, working weekends to catch up hell just to trying and KEEP UP with it all and not being able to get away from all of this.
I started yelling again at my girlfriend and I feel terrible and I she's not going to put up with it so I told her I had to take a break before things get worse, at least until I can get my head on straight.
I can take so much then its too damn much and thats where i'm at I just cant take anymore. I tried turning this all over again today its hard to shut my head off, My back has been killing me too with pain and discomfort, that really gets me in a foul mood and its been going on for months now, been to a chiropractor but I think i'm going to try getting a massage this evening, my back is so tense and spasming I have been eating Ibuprophen 1000 mg at a time twice a day now for a week and I know thats not good.
I just needed to get that out there I am going to a meeting this evening also I havent been to a real one out here in months and I am going to get in touch with a few guys from the program and see if one will sit with me and talk, I guess i'm not being active enough especially during trying times cause this is kicken my butt and my mind and spirit.
Thanks for listening woop me with a rubber hose if you like I often need to be beaten into submission.....
It sounds like you are having a really rough few weeks. I am glad to see that you added that you were going to go to a meeting tonight. I think that is where you need to be. I know that you know that if you are going to get your head on straight that you need other people around for help and support. With all of the stress that it sounds like you have going on around you, I wouldn't be surprised if some of you back pain is not related to that....I know that for me, stress just makes everything else more painful. Take care of yourself first. Everything else is just details. We decide how big they are going to be.
You are in my prayers.
Kathleen
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Yes, I bought a ticket on the crazy train.....Good thing it was a return ticket.
I am so messed up that tonight was my meeting night not last night I got my days messed up, but another member called me and wanted to do the meeting online tonight so I said sure gave me a chance to do some other things.
My backs always been an issue and especially when stressing out on life so you may be very right about that , the strong coffee I have been drinking isn't helping so cutting back on that. Didn't make it to a meeting I actually went to the gym instead I haven't worked out in almost 2 weeks I took it real easy and light and did a lot of stretching, feeling a bit better.
I just got some money today and needed to do some shopping, out of cat food and liter for these 4 babys and I haven't been eating right so I bought salad stuff and had a huge salad for dinner.
I am going to lay down open my NA book and start reading it again, figure out what I can do about this place that I keep finding myself in.
I usually in times of stress pray a lot turning my will and life over and over and that works I think I have been slacking on that trying to take control and I can't it just doesn't work that way for me anymore, so back to the drawing board.
No thoughts of using YET just want some relief spiritually not looking for chemical relief anymore I want something deeper then filling my body with dope that doesn't work either.
Hey Vini, Glad to read your post because, "reaching out is the beginning of the struggle that sets us free." I have by no means "arrived" and life does still show up for me, but I have achieved a certain level of peace and serenity and would like to share with you some of what I've learned. I started by "downsizing" my life. After years of chasing money that I thought would make me happy (I was really just finding ways and means to get more) I decided that being content was more important than being rich. I understand that "rich" is a relative term, but as long as my basic needs are met, food, clothing, shelter, everything else is just a point of comfort, as the book says. I left a job I had done for over 20 years as a commissioned salesman and found myself a job that met my needs and little more. I immersed myself in the Program- sponsorship, meetings, service, reaching out to newcomers, and most of all, step work. When I find myself struggling today it is usually because I'm holding on to something God is trying to remove from my life that is hindering my growth, either spiritual or emotional. I encourage you to become involved in your local Fellowship, make meetings a priority, and above all, work steps. If you have worked the steps before, you already know their value. If you haven't completed the steps yet, please, PLEASE get busy writing. I remember feeling very overwhelmed at the beginning of my step work by the sheer VOLUME of material to be written. I also experienced that feeling again over the course of the steps, but it always passed and the benefits were worth the temporary discomfort. When I was doing my eighth step list and felt stuck, my sponsor asked me "How do you eat an elephant?" ..."One bite at a time," he would say. Vini, the transformation that takes place when an addict works the steps is truly miraculous. Please don't cheat yourself out of your miracle. I apologize if I'm coming off "preachy." That is not my intent. I just want to share what has so utterly changed my life and given me that certain "something" that I have been looking for my whole life. Good Luck, Vini, and God Bless. I hope you find YOUR miracle.
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"With a sweet tongue of kindness, you can drag an elephant by a hair." ~Persian Proverb
hey vin, found this in my roamings, maybe it can help take the edge off .
Greg P. gave his last NA talk in a small North Carolina town and died on April 29, 1999.
Greg Pierce's Last NA Talk
April 17, 1999
"My name's Greg and I'm an addict. We're all going around around, around and around?" (chuckles) (talking about cassette recorders)
Well alright. I'm real glad to be here to help you celebrate your anniversary, and I'm tickled to death that we have so many new members, because I very strongly believe that the newcomer is the lifeblood of this institution, the lifeblood of this thing we call Narcotics Anonymous. The lifeblood of this society, whatever you want to call it. For those of you who are new, you can probably discount about ninety percent of what you learn. I believe that recovery over a period of time is a process of simplification.
We learn a lot of stuff about recovery, you'll come in here, and you'll do worksheets, you'll read books, you'll talk to this person, you'll talk to that person, you'll get sponsors, if you can stick with the basics you have a chance. It's real easy to get lost in all theÉ the gimmicks.
We have a brand new set of wonderful step writing guides- but you can work them diligently, and they won't help you stay clean. We have a Basic Text- you can read it every day, and it won't help you stay clean. We have a book called It Works How and Why that gives you lots of information about the steps, and the traditions. You can learn it perfect, and it won't help you stay clean. It's what you do with that information. It's the way you take that information from all sources and apply it to your daily living and use it to find this thing called recovery. And recovery's a very precious gift.
This is liable to be an interesting talk tonight. Umm, because in the last couple of months I found out that I have cancer of the liver and uh, I don't feel real good, but you see I'm an NA member and the day I found out I had cancer of the liver, I called my sponsor and went to a meeting. That's what NA members do!
That's part of how this program works. We don't isolate. We don't hide. We don't disappear into the woodwork when things get tough. We reach out to the fellowship. We reach out to our sponsors, we reach out to our meetings, we reach out to those around us that we've come to learn to love and depend on. Umm, that's a big part about how this works.
This is a place where we take turns saving each other's lives. And you know, the people that come after you that you meet in recovery- treat them real well, cause you never know when your life's gonna depend on 'em. And you'll meet people that come after you- even though there wereÉ it seems like a whole bunch of brand new people here- stay cleanÉ hang around- give this thing a chance - keep the faith. There's something very special happening here. You know some of you who introduced themselves as being new have probably been here before. Some of you have probably never been here before.
AhÉ give yourself a break. Try this way of living- what have you got to lose? If you're like me - you don't have much to lose. If you're like me - you didn't get here 'cause things were going good in your life. Those of you who are here for your first meetings- you know - I know where you lived- it's called Hell. 'Cause that's where NA is - go to Hell, and turn left. That's NA.
You're not here because you're good at holdin' down a job. You're not here because you're good at stayin' out of trouble, you're not here because you have successful relationships. You're not here uh, because you're uh, you know the candidate for poster child of mental health. You're here for the same reason that I'm here. You're here because you're none of those things.
You're here because you're in a trap that you can't get out of by yourself. And despite all the things you've tried, you're still in that trap. In other words, in desperation, we sought help from each other in Narcotics Anonymous. In desperation we sought help from each other in Narcotics Anonymous. And it doesn't make any sense. Doesn't make sense that we can get together, a bunch of losers, and anybody'd stay clean. But we do.
You know I've seen NA grow from 20 meetings to 40,000 meetings. I don't even know how many there are now - that's a guess - maybe more than that. I've seen NA meetings grow from perhaps uh 150 - 200 people attending, and maybe a quarter that many involved, uh, to look around the room - there's as many people here tonight as were in NA when I got clean. And here we're in Winston Salem, North Carolina of all places. The birthday of a group- all together. You know what - there's another meeting in Bombay isn't there? And there's one in Denmark- I had the opportunity to speak not too long ago in Denmark. There were nine hundred NA members from Denmark there. Nine Hundred members from Denmark!!
You know I didn't know when we had one from Arizona, or one from Carolina, or one from New Jersey. There were times when there weren't any anywhere. Umm, we got people staying clean living this way of life all over the country. And there's power here- there's miracles here- there's magic here, if you will. But it isn't going to work unless you let go, and let it work. One of the things I've learned over the last twenty- eight years is there is no substitute for surrender. If you want this thing to work - you're going to have to give up. You're going to have to give up being a dope fiend; you're going to have to letÉ give up you know, being hip slick and cool. You're going to have to give up standing on the corner.
You're going to have to give up all those things that sometimes seem so attractive when you're not hurtin' too bad. And reach out for help. First of all to an NA member, second of all to a loving God. There is no substitute for surrender. There is no therapist that you can go to that's gonna make everything OK. There is no church you can go to that's going to fix your addiction. There is no book with all the magic answers in it.
There is no medicine that'll take care of your addiction. When I say my name is Greg and I'm an addict it means three things and they're very simple. Number one, when I put drugs in my body, I lose the ability to control how they react in my body. I lose the ability to predict where they're going to take me. Number two, I have a tendency to get strung out on anything. I'll take wonderful things and make them self- destructive.
You know - its reading - I got a book - I didn't read it much on the way down - 'Cause I wasn't feeling all that well. I was catnapping in the car most of the way. I love to read! I didn't read before I got clean. But I've learned it's a great escape. But you know what? If I pick up a book and get into it, I mayÉ might have to finish it before I set it down. Now I might be able to set it down, in the meantime, but I have no way to determine that. I'll get strung out on all kinds of weird stuff. And thirdly, when I say that I'm an addict it means that I carry this spiritual illness that separates me from you. Separates me from every other human being. It separates me from God, it separates me from life and reality. And uh, that's difficult.
You know we know what it's like to be alone. One of the things I remember before coming to NA was the loneliness of addiction. The loneliness - even when you're in a room full of people. And some of you sitting here tonight, in a room full of people, are about as lonely as you can stand. Nobody knows it, because you haven't let anybody in - because you're afraid. Cause of all these things. I came around the program - Now I did what pretty much what we do-I mean there aren't a lot of different ways, we think we got some unique handle on how we do this program, but there's not.
And I come around here and the first thing that happens is I start going to meetings and I stop using and you know, it's kinda like I start getting high off of not being high. It's almost like not using nothing's a new drug. And then after a while I'm going to these meetings, and I'm listening to what people are reading and all this stuff - You know, I kinda memorized that stuff. Couldn't read very well. And I know people who've come around to NA without being able to read at all, who learn to read by listening to the readings in the meetings. Again and again and again and again and hearing them, and seeing them at the same time. If you have a problem with reading, get yourself a little white booklet, and as the readings are being read, follow along with it. And that can teach you how to read.
It's taught a many many people how to read. Um, you don't have to talk to anybody about having a reading problem- lots of us have reading problems. But read along - learn the words. And at ninety days, I had all the answers. I had 'em all! I had this shit down. I'd tell ya- ask me any questions- ask me a question - just go ahead.. I'll tell ya. And I'd spout this stuff about the "Therapeutic value of one addict helping another is without parallel." I didn't have any idea about what I was talking about. Or I'd say something like , "there's one thing more than anything else that will defeat us in our recovery, this is an attitude of indifference or intolerance toward spiritual principles." Do you think at ninety days I had any idea what that meant? It sounded good- you know - it made me feel like part of - and people would accept me - they'd pat me on the back saying Oh you're doing good- but the reality is I didn't know - I didn't have a clue - I just memorized the words!
And I thought I had all the answers - you know the funny part about it is I did have all the answers - I just didn't know which were which - and which went with the which questions. You know or what they meant or how I could use them in my daily living - that's the biggie. Our twelfth step says, "Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of the these steps, we tried to carry this message to addicts and practice these principles in all our affairs." And I'm big into practice these principles in all our affairs. You know once you find out about how this program works, start using it in your life! In every area of your life. You know, don't withhold anything. Don't reserve anything. You know reservations are the kind of the things I told God "Hey God I'll handle this one, you just leave me alone. I can take care of it, I can handle it."
And I'm in trouble. Because I can no more handle my life than the man in the moon. You know, if I could handle my life, I sure wouldn't end up sitting up here in front of you guys with cancer - I'd be bouncing around the room you know- finger poppin' talking long shit. But I'm here tonight because I'm an NA member. I'm here tonight because this is part of how I live. This is as much about a part of the way I live as turning my will and my life over to the care of God, or writing an inventory or making amends or any of the other things the program teaches me to work.
Over the years, our programs change, you know I got to that point where I was talking about knowing all the answers - and that only lasted about a month before the roof caved in. You know the big blue bird of feelings flew over and took a healthy dump and I figured out - "Oh! This is why I used." And I had no way to cope with those feelings- I had no way to cope. And what'd I do? I turned to the program. And I can remember at six months going "Oh my God it's not the drugs."
Cause I thought drugs were the problem. I really thought the drugs were the problem. And had you asked me I would've told you I was powerless over heroin and it had fucked up my life. And that's what the first step said. But that's not what the first step says.
The first step says we're powerless over our addiction, that our lives had become unmanageable. And again addiction is a three fold disease- it's physical, and that has to do with the drugs that we used, but its also mental and spiritual. And my experience is the mental part and the spiritual part are much more devastating and much more far reaching than the physical part of our disease. Now once we clean up and kick a habit, the physical has pretty much taken care of itself. The mental and spiritual aspects of our disease continue throughout our recovery. The potential for the physical continues on for our recovery.
But in reality the mental and spiritual aspects are things that you'll have to deal with all your life. And again the tendency we have to get strung out on anything, take wonderful things and make them self - destructive. And number two, lack of faith, lack of hope, lack of trust, inability to (unclear), self obsession, low self- esteem. Those things are things that we have to cope with on through time, and things that I have to struggle with today. The most difficult thing in my life today is the third step. The most difficult thing in my life today is the third step. To really make that decision to turn my will and my life over to the care of God as I understand him.
As I continued, and approached a year I got into the - what they call the birthday crazies, where just before a year where, where, you're into sabotage, you know? Oh my God I'm a sick man another three weeks I'll have a year and I'll have made it, what'll I do now? How can I, how can I wreck this? Or just after a year when you're going, "Whew! Boy I'm glad I made that, now I can get back to looking like a real person." The reality is that I've been looking like a real person. You know, or the step that happens at eighteen months, when we find ourselves bored with the program and it says it in the white booklet we get tired of repeating our new practices or that, uh, that sometimes in those times are when the greatest changes take place within.
I'd get tired of this. I you know, I'd discovered that there were other things to do other than go to meetings. I mean, I found Star Trek on the TV, I found books, I found hobbies, I found things I enjoyed doing, I thought, I found things that were fun. Certainly not a whole lot more, certainly a whole lot more fun than listening to you guys.
You know we come in here, you know meetings don't change too much, from day to day, year to year, you know every once in a while there's something spectacular that happens, but basically year in year out, people say pretty much the same things. Newcomers ask the same questions, people's responses to those questions are pretty much the same, you know, uh, and it's not a thrilling existence, it's not, you know the thrilling part comes in watching someone's eyes, the thrilling part comes when you're talking with someone after a meeting, and you can see a change take place. See someone begin to live, where once they were dying. That's the thrilling part.
The thrilling part's at a convention, uh when you finally, something clicks. You're going, "Oh WOW now I understand that!" Or at someone's house, becoming a part of someone's life. Those are the thrills of Narcotics Anonymous. You know, NA to me is not about an hour, an hour and a half in the evening. An hour, an hour and a half in the evening are fine, but NA is so much more than that. It's a way of living. You either live this way or you don't live this way - it's ok if you don't. It's ok if you don't.
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" If you have built castles in the air , your work need not be lost ; that is where they should be . Now put the foundations under them . "
Ah, I've had to give people permission to reject this way of life. Because, uh, you know the reality is that some do, and it hurts when you care a lot about 'em. We're not in recovery in isolation, we affect each other's lives. And when someone you've cared about, and you've spent time with, and you've invested your spirit with, goes out, it hurts. I can remember saying um, God, - please don't let me love another addict, cause it hurts too bad when they leave. And you know what - that isn't the answer either. That was too much like the death I had using, not being able to care about anybody. At three years I found myself in a situation where uh it seemed like all the things I'd used to try to fix myself quit working, substitution quit working. And uh, I was in trouble, and I had to dive into the program on a new level.
At four and a half years it seemed like the program quit working. The things you taught me about NA, um the gimmicks; the write the inventory, the call your sponsors, the work with your newcomer, all those things seemed to quit working. And I had to get right with my Higher Power; I had to come out with a new relationship with God. I had to turn my recovery over to the care of God as I understood him. I couldn't just turn the symptoms over. I had to turn the real deal over. I had to work the third step for the first time. For real. My understanding of the steps has changed over time.
You know like I told you about the first step, I originally thought that meant that you know. that I admit that I am powerless over heroin, that it had screwed up my life - that was obvious. But um I've come to believe in this three fold disease. Perhaps the most change has come in the second step, particularly in the last few years. We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. And I thought originally that meant I'd come to believe that God could fix me. You know maybe God can fix me. But I don't think that's what the step says. I had to look at this idea sanity and what did that really mean. And I went back to the simple stuff - a person who is sane is a person who is in touch with reality. A person who is insane is someone who is out of touch with reality. And what's reality, ultimately reality is God - the universe, all things.
So, my second step changed to where I come to believe that a process- these twelve steps- can put me back in touch with reality, can restore my spirituality, and restore my relationship with God. And that's really changed all the rest of the steps. I used to think the third step was about making a commitment, and saying the words- they had a third step prayer I used to repeat. It was a really good prayer.
Um today, my third step is about trying to live life, as if I really believed there was a loving God trying to take care of me. I mean, what if there really was!? What if there really is someone taking care of you? And it's ok to risk living. What if there really is a loving god out there working for you and you don't have to try to control all this shit? And you don't have to try to make the unmanageable turn out the way you want it. What if?? It'd be a different world, wouldn't it? I know it's been a different world for me when I can believe that.
The fourth step, instead of being show and tell you know, has been a matter of really taking a look at who I am, and seeing the ways that I've separated myself from God. You see and those things that I've done throughout my recovery that keep me from growing spiritually - the patterns I've fallen into, the mistakes I've made, and even some of the successes, which have kept me from surrendering. You see if you give me a quarter inch of success, I'll ride it for a mile and a half. I try one thing, and it turns out OK, I'm going to try it a hundred times, just to try to make it come out OK again. Except I forget the first time it turned out OK it wasn't because of my doing, it was God's doing. I forget that. So my fourth step has become an exploration of me, and how I relate to God. It's become a lot about humility. You know we talk a lot about humility in the later steps, but there's a lot of humility in the fourth step, knowing who and what you really are. Only by knowing my patterns can I avoid them.
In the fifth step, to me it's become a time when I can gain some clarity about that. Get someone sitting down with me who doesn't have a big interest in who I am. You see, I am incapable of being objective about myself. Everything I think about me is tied up in my hopes, my prayers, my fears, my shit, my issues, my past, my present, my dreams, and you know, I'll tweak anything. Lois brought home a thing one time from a meeting saying "we're the kind of people who from a single tree can create a mighty forest in which we immediately get lost." It's True! That's the kind of stuff I need a sponsor for. He can say "hey dummy this is just a tree!" This ain't the world! Who is not prejudiced about Greg. Who can see me objectively and say "hey- this pattern here- don't you see this?" and I go "no.." And uh, that's what my fifth step has turned into. Getting some perspective on what I learned in the fourth step. Getting some unprejudiced, outside opinion about what's going onÉ What's really going on in my life.
The sixth step; becoming entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character, to me is about getting ready. It's about learning about those defects, and taking the step I learned about in the fourth and fifth step, and really taking a look at it. Why is this a defect? What does this mean? What is it all about? It's about learning more about humility and it's also about preparing to do the seventh step. One of the things that has been veryÉ become a big favorite of mine in the sixth step when I'm working with someone is asking the person I'm working with is to write their own personal individual unique seventh step prayer. And something that means what they really want it to mean.
And in the seventh step going and following it through, and taking a look at the effect of it on their lives. Writing a journal. I'm a big believer in writing, although I don't think writing's the only way. Writing a journal about how this step is working in your life; how this prayer, this seventh step prayer, that you've begun to use daily, is working in your life. The amends have changed dramatically for me. Um, but before I talk about those, you know, our defects and shortcomings, I used to think of those things as like symptoms and things like that, but I think back to that, what I found in my fourth step. Those have to do more with the things that separate me from God. My defects and shortcomings are those things, which separate me from God, which separate me from sanity, which keep me sick.
And the eight and ninth step are the primary way, other than humbly asking God to remove those things that I can contribute to change. I make a list of how I have separated myself from God. All those things I used to stay off track, 'cause I was afraid of me. All the things I've used that have kept me from growing spiritually. And I take a look at 'em. And I plan how I can amend that. What can I do about this? You know the ninth step says " we made direct amends whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others." There's a couple things off the top that for me, I've learned about that step. Number one is I'm not others. I'm not one of these members that says, "well you don't do nothing that could place you in jeopardy as part of your ninth step. That's not what the ninth step is about to me. It's not about placing anyone in jeopardy. It's about trying to amend and restore where I've gone off track spiritually. And um, the second thing I've learned about the ninth step, I feel real strongly about is uh, you make amends. If possible you make direct amends. If not possible, you still make amends. You just can't do it directly. I myself have used this idea well I haven't had the opportunity to make direct amends so I must not need to do anything about it this year or next to avoid some of the things I had to do. You know I think we make amends, and to me, the process of making amends is to take positive action to put myself back in spiritual balance. Take positive action to restore my spirituality. Taking positive action to try to see how I've gotten off track, and bring myself back on track.
Uh, the tenth step is really neat step. And the tenth step has to do with um, for me, has to do with balance in our lives. Staying on track, here in the eighth and ninth step we kinda, seven eight and nine - we've kinda gotten back on track. Some. Uh, through our amends, through humbly asking God to remove our shortcomings, we've gotten kind of back on track, and one of the ways we stay on track is through the tenth step, and that's by keeping track of how we're doing on those things. And I've learned for me, you know, checking out the day at the end of the day don't cut it. But I have to do almost a constant monitoring to see how I'm doing throughout the day, and make adjustments. And when I head off, you know the tenth step says when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. And I, for years I thought that meant well when I do something to somebody I apologize for it. I read it in my head, and when we were wrong, promptly apologized for it. You know, today that's so much broader. When I start heading the wrong direction, I need to come back on track. I have to admit that I'm heading off in the wrong direction, and bring my, and do what I can do to come back on track. When I fall into one of my patterns, self- destructive patterns, whether I involve someone else or not, I have to recognize that I'm headed the wrong direction. And take action to come back on track, to maintain that spiritual balance. So, for me today the tenth step is, uh, about maintaining spiritual balance.
Eleventh step, we sought through prayer and meditation to improve or conscious contact with God as we understood him, praying only for the knowledge of his will for us and the power to carry that out. To me, that has to do about growing spiritually, has to do about keeping ourselves on track in the future. It's about discovering what God has in store for me. Being open to God's plan, not just my plan, and having the courage, and the power to follow that plan, not my plan. Follow up, and work the program! Work God's program. You know, prayer and meditation are two of the important ways we do that. I'm telling you that life is all about prayer and meditation! What if everything you do is a prayer? What if every sleazy thing we did was a prayer? What if every generous thing we did was a prayer? What if every negative thing we do is a prayer? What if every positive thing we do is a prayer? That scared the shit out of me at one time. 'cause I started looking at my life, and I wasn't real thrilled about some of the stuff I was doing. And my prayer was not a very positive prayer. So I believe the eleventh step is about making our lives a prayer. Is your life a prayer? That you're proud to give to God? Or is your life something you're embarrassed about, or feel guiltyÉ I suspect that if you're embarrassed about your life or feel guilty about the way you act, you need to do some changing. And that's part of the eleventh step. We need to change the way we live, and make our lives a positive prayer. And if everything I do is a prayer, then maybe everything I think is a meditation. And I honestly believe that if I can come into a room looking for the presence of a loving God, aware that God will be speaking through whoever's speaking, I'll hear God's will for me. I'll hear what I need to hear. A lot of you guys have experienced that- gone to a meeting in a blue funk, and some newcomer said something so outrageous that it just blows you away. And they have no idea what they're talking about, and it's so profound. It really is! They, in that one moment of time, become a vehicle of God. And are able to say something in a way that you're never ever been able to hear it before. And the light goes on inside you, that, you have a spiritual awakening. You know, you can experience that around here. Out of the mouths of babes.
Twelfth step. Having had a spiritual awakening, we tried to carry this message to addicts, and practice these principles in all our affairs. And uh, the bottom line of that is live this way. You want to be an NA member? Be a fuckin' NA member. Do it right! You want to follow a spiritual path? Commit yourself with abandon. It's the only way it works. This is not a half - ass program. Having had a spiritual awakening, a rebirth, enlightenment. And I believe in Narcotics Anonymous, this twelve step path we're on, is just as sure a road to enlightenment as any philosophy or religion. And does not exclude any philosophy or religion. But, having had that awakening, You know it's kinda like when someone turns on your light, let it shine babe! Don't cover it up! When you get enlightened, when you have that spiritual awakening, don't hide it! Let it shine forth! And share with others so it can grow! So it can be nurtured. So it can shine even brighter! Carry this message to addicts. What's the message? The message is hope. The message is spirituality. The message is all these things. And practice these principles in all our affairs. Um, that's a big part of the message- live this way. You know, I can say all kinds of stuff about the steps. I've learned a lot about the steps and traditions and Narcotics Anonymous in twenty-eight years. But the message I show you through the way I live is the real one. Kinda like don't tell me how good you're doing show by the way you live. How am I living? How is my life today? How's my program today?
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" If you have built castles in the air , your work need not be lost ; that is where they should be . Now put the foundations under them . "
I'm coping with a very serious illness. Some days I do pretty good with it. Some days I don't do very well with it. Yesterday, I sat and told Lois, I'm so tired of being sick. I was struggling with being sick. Some days my relationship with my Higher Power is strong. I have not fallen into the trap of Why Me God, thank God. I'm pretty much convinced that this is an opportunity rather than a punishment or a curse. And God has got wonderful stuff in store for me. And I've experienced part of that. Last weekend there were three guys over to the house. All from different parts of the country. And they had an experience. They had a number of experiences, which may have changed their lives. NA members - one from the Midwest, One from New Jersey, one from Indiana, who didn't know each other. But were brought together for a common purpose. And they worked together, and they laughed together, and they told stories together and they shared together. And the barriers came down and they sat out in the woods, and uh, they experienced something.
My dream for a lot of years was to have a place where that could happen. And it's happening. In spite of me. Don't know what the future holds for me. I don't know whether, like anybody else, I don't know whether I'm gonna buy the farm tonight on the way home, have six months, two years, ten years, fifteen years, I don't know. What I do know is that I have had a good life beyond my wildest dreams in Narcotics Anonymous. I have been given the great gift of having had a chance to touch some spirits. Get to know people just like you. And contribute to their recovery, and have them contribute to my recovery. And that's what this is about. It's about touching spirits. It's about giving you a little bit of my glow in exchange for a little bit of your glow. And both coming out brighter in the process. It's aboutÉit's about being there for each other when no ones ever been there before. It's about learning how to love when we never knew how to love. It's about learning how to give instead of take. It's about all those things. And it's a helluva trip! I have a good life. I have had a good life. I continue to have a good life. And uh, I ain't done yet. So I thank you for asking me down, I with you.
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thanks raman,, and vini, these things do come to us when we need them, its not our will anymore . we turn it over ,we give it up. and let HP have the control. Its been really good for me to have an addict like you to share with. id give about anything to be there and go to that meeting with you. I'm with you in spirit though brother. TAKE IT EASY, give yourself a break. Anthony G.
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" If you have built castles in the air , your work need not be lost ; that is where they should be . Now put the foundations under them . "
I seek Gods will through you all along with my prayer and meditation times I really aprreciate your input and help when I have time later I will read that share Anthony.
My life has grown much since joining NA in 2 years now I just need to grow up with it and take responsibilty without so much whining yes still whining like a child and throwing tantrums and I see I need to sede this all in a different perspective but I still see things and act out with the eyes of a child.
Well that said and it does feel strange admitting this but it is the truth I have much to do I have the step work work book to crack open I have worked all the steps but maybe along the way I missed out on something and its time to work them over and get a sponsor and go to meetings, thats ok at least i'm not having to start completely over from scratch I am just in a new phase of growth, I hope.
Thanks again now I have to go chase the almighty $ gota get my ends Dan
I am so messed up that tonight was my meeting night not last night I got my days messed up, but another member called me and wanted to do the meeting online tonight so I said sure gave me a chance to do some other things.
My backs always been an issue and especially when stressing out on life so you may be very right about that , the strong coffee I have been drinking isn't helping so cutting back on that. Didn't make it to a meeting I actually went to the gym instead I haven't worked out in almost 2 weeks I took it real easy and light and did a lot of stretching, feeling a bit better.
I just got some money today and needed to do some shopping, out of cat food and liter for these 4 babys and I haven't been eating right so I bought salad stuff and had a huge salad for dinner.
I am going to lay down open my NA book and start reading it again, figure out what I can do about this place that I keep finding myself in.
I usually in times of stress pray a lot turning my will and life over and over and that works I think I have been slacking on that trying to take control and I can't it just doesn't work that way for me anymore, so back to the drawing board.
No thoughts of using YET just want some relief spiritually not looking for chemical relief anymore I want something deeper then filling my body with dope that doesn't work either.
Thanks for reading this too shall pass.
HEY YOUR a winner!~ You did not use. These tests are made to get you and keep you stroger believe it or not!~ G.O.D. Good Orderly direction is pure 100 percent love!~ Anything else is negativity and its job is to steal your joy in any and all forms. JUST for today I will be unafraid.
I will not get too H. ungry A. angry L. lonely or T. ierd
Vini i'm glad you posted and did'nt use whats so screwy is the things that often makes us nuts are things we can't control the only thing you can do is `give it to god and work your program you might think you are being selfish or hard on your g-friend maybe you are but likre in almost all things concerning we the addict you know the cure i am praying for you brother get your silly self to a meet and talk to us you know the drill we might not have all the answers but we do take care of each other go with god my friend and peace be with you luv ya bro rocky (aka) bret
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some of us win some of us lose with god and this program i will be a winner
AH THANKS Honey Bear that was kind I need some kind words about now .
Rocky I got told that I am being SELFISH and in a way I am I needed to get focused on me but she's panicing thinking we're done and I am trying to save whats left. She did talk with an addict in recovery who is in her family and I think they explained things a bit but I think she is worried I am going to keep having these episodes ( and I may ) and leave her out of helping me but as her family member told her " She can't fix me or even help at times" it takes this right here me asking you all for support and yes I need to do more.
Thanks again guys and I am hearing you loud and clear I need to get back to the program I am doing a little trying to apply what I know and what works to get me through but I know I have some deeper level stuff to work on .
"We learn to become flexible.. As new things are revealed, we feel renewed."
Basic Text p.98
"Flexibility" was not a part of the vocabulary we used in our using days. We'd become obsessed with the raw pleasure of our drugs and hardened to all the softer, subtler, more infinitely varied pleasures of the world around us. Our disease had turned life itself into a constant threat of jails, institutions, and death, a threat against which we hardened ourselves all the more. In the end we became brittle. With the merest breath of life's wind we crumbled at last, broken, defeated, with no choice but to surrender.
But the beautiful irony of recovery is that, in our surrender, we found the flexibility we had lost in our addiction, the very lack of which had defeated us. We regained the ability to bend in life's breeze without breaking. When the wind blew, we felt its loving caress against our skin, where once we would have hardened ourselves as if against the onrush of a storm.
The winds of life blow new airs our way each moment, and with them new fragrances, new pleasures, varied, subtly different. As we bend with life's wind, we feel and hear and touch and smell and taste all it has to offer us. And as new winds blow, we feel renewed.
Just for Today: Higher Power, help me bend with life's wind and glory in its passing. Free me from rigidity.
I haven't worked out in almost 2 weeks I took it real easy and light and did a lot of stretching, feeling a bit better.
