Hi all,,Im starting a new topic for especially those who havent gotten used to the "just for today " basis of our recovery Program. 1.Just for today my thoughts will be on my recovery,,,,living and enjoy9ng life without the use of drugs. So please share your day here,, its like a blog. 20th June= I started the day at 3pm. Id had a long Skype session with my babe in England.We chatted and chatted and I felt too wonderfully tired to wake up early., Anyways,, I wnet on with the days work,,feeling good. I did small chores around the house and then took a half hpour walk on the terrace. Then my daughter comes back home and she me and ma discuss some thiongs fore we say prayers. then I go onto my work at a hotel and played my music. There I experienced some different emotions like confusion and frustration. then took a break came back and continued with my music and had appreciation. One great guest even came and said "thank you for your great music" anfd surprised me with a tip,,, Im greatful for that. Dinner.Home. I skype my babe and sing two songs ,,,"What a wonderful world" and "Imagine" for her and her long time friend. Then wqe chat privately on the phone,, discussing and making plans. I say good nite and come here to MIP,,, I want to end the day like this,,, good nite and God Bless all you addicts wherever you maybe !!
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Raman an addict clean and serene just for today in NA Worldwide ; live to love and love to live the NA Way !!!
My day frist starts off with dragging my big butt to the coffee pot microwaving a tumbler fool and grabbing a chair with a cig by the PC.
First thing is check emails see if baby sent me a good morning text message if not I get mad LOL, no sometimes I am up before her usually around 7am I then check the board here for posts and a few other boards of my hobbies and political hate stuff LOL that usually really gets me going arguing politics.
by 830 I am ready to get dressed and on the road to work wherever that may be here in town or out sometimes.
I get home shower eat and relax sometimes take a cat nap, go to the gym a few times a week , hit a meeting on mondays at the mens group.
Not very exciting existance but I keep out of trouble that way
Ok I am off to BBQ with some friends for the evening it is WAY HOT here 108 degrees i hate summer gimme winter back
Blessings to all, we have many newcomers hitting the board we wish and hope for all of you to get this recovery going its not easy at first and its not easy all the time once you get some time inbetween using but it is so so sooooo much better then before , we want you to have what we've been so lucky to attain.
here i am agonizing on a few things J. hasnt called yet,,its 4pm now.She didnt answers sms yesterday nor the phone today !! theres a payment due thats not yet come,,,im agonizing cause ach time i try to contact the concerned person theres no response. I wish Id made this clear to em in the beggining,, that ill need payment immediately after the show. my drummer and guitarist and sick and cant play for the wekends show,,, what will i do at such short notice ? trying to contact the event manager is becoming a bloody task in itself the guys that did a repair job on my jeep after an accident took three momths and many things havent been done yet,,, in fcat just yesterday I noticed the diesels been leaking,,,i dont know how many lotres ave been lost this past three days and nites. did a quick fox on it and am going to ask for a replacement,,,FREE OF COST !!! im still wondering why the !@#$ i was angry last Sat nite at a show,,,really baffled with that incident !!!
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Raman an addict clean and serene just for today in NA Worldwide ; live to love and love to live the NA Way !!!
I'm awake early today, as on most days. The mother turkey and her ten youngsters were in the yard so I first went out to give them all some seed. (They're wild, but we've established a bit of a friendship. Sort of. Basically, we're friends as long as I feed them. I allow them to totally use me like that since I like hearing the little ones peep.)
I didn't see the chipmunks quite that early, but I have been hoping to train the three babes to eat from my hand. Maybe I'll see them later.
Being in nature gives me a high level of serenity. It's my morning prayer.
I checked email, MIP, and a couple of online things over coffee.
Hubby and I talked about what we're going to do with a kayak we're being given. (The owners are replacing it.) It's a very nice gift, but one that will require some unexpected spending to transport and use - roof rack, pfds, paddles, etc. I tend to be a saver (a hoarder, really) while he's a spender, so negotiating financial matters can be challenging. We're doing okay so far although I have to work hard to not worry about spending what seems like a lot of money to me. (To someone else it's probably not a big deal.)
Now, I'm off for a workout. Oh, I had the courage to get on the scale this morning (YIKES!) and discovered that I've lost some weight. (YAY!) A nice bonus from letting go of my food addiction. I've committed to stop using food as a drug.
Raman, this is a nice idea to have a check-in. It provides me with an opportunity to reflect on the little things in my life as well as to get to know you and V a little better. Thanks!
wow thanks Blithe,,, you give me hope lady !! I really like your slogan "Character is what we do when noone is looking". I cant say enough of how greatful im for that sentence,,,Im using those magic words each day of my lfe !! Fantastic,,,,
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Raman an addict clean and serene just for today in NA Worldwide ; live to love and love to live the NA Way !!!
Ive been up and about,, bt a headache has me worried about where it came from ,, why I got it etc... Im also in the midst of a hectic Wednesday to Sunday music schedules,, 3 shows at the Hotel,,one in a Club for a dancing crowd and finally a party Sunday afternoon. I will have a recovering friend on two of the weekend shows,,but the others I have to play alone. I like that too,, as I got in touch with my own self musically,,,thgis helps me adapt to canges more easily as well as chalk out whats next more clearly !!! Needless to say all these show sinvolve playing to people that are drinking and all. So I just go there do my music and stay out of "vicarious pleasure" things. My family scenes are going well with my daughter and I feeling closer than ever to each other. I saw my girl photo from few years back and thought wistfully how shes grwon up and nhow quickly time passes. One of the greatest achievements Ive had in clean time recovery is to have gone thru seperation and divorce and be parent to Anjana without indulging in any poisoning of her mind against her mother. Ive done all I can to stop any form of alienation form her mother. This I believe is the most spiritually correct way to be,,, a sure sense of Goodness and Rightness. It has given me more emotional freedom with my daughter. Thank God for that !!And the 12 Step sgharing I got when I was in that painful seperation/divorce situation,,,,which is now in the past tense of 4 years,,, leaving me a very happily divorced male,,a very greatful father !!
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Raman an addict clean and serene just for today in NA Worldwide ; live to love and love to live the NA Way !!!
I'm up early and since I've completed my work commitments for the week, I was hoping for some time at the beach. Alas, I don't know if the weather will cooperate with my plans.
I've been seeing an unusual bird at my feeders and am very excited that it may be breeding in the area. I will watch for evidence of that.
I've also been working on a CD design that is progressing nicely. I'm doing it as a favor, but with the hope that it may lead to paid work in the future.
I found out yesterday that my four little grandchildren will not need to come live with me this fall and winter - at least not yet. That news is both a relief and disappointment.
Today I will return a call to a sponsee and hopefully touch base with my sponsor as well. I will make a meeting tonight and may meet with another sponsee beforehand.
ive had a fantastic day. played at a birthday party and was able to entertain em well. I was very happy to see a recovering friend there and told him so. Good mood ,good money ,, Home with my darling daughter in the evening. Discussed a few things ,,ta chatted a bit,, then kissed my baby goodnite. Dintryner and now seeing the soccer finals (EURO 2008) on TV. "A greatful heart cannot harbour conceit" Im trying to live that !!!
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Raman an addict clean and serene just for today in NA Worldwide ; live to love and love to live the NA Way !!!
I've had amazingly good communication today in a couple of difficult situations. I was honest and direct without being rude or hurtful. I'm getting better at appropriately speaking my mind about things I find disagreeable.
Fantastic Blithe,,, I believe dreams do come true in recovery and interpersonal honesty has been one of the main challenges=== I try and not make truth bitter and hurtful. This hasnt however meant that Im not at the recieving end ,,,, it happens many times that people on the pretext of being honest and direct hurt me a lot. Now that in turn brings in another challenge,, that of not being offended by offense !!hahaha ! An old Proverb of India comes to mind= TRUTH THAT HURTS,TRUTH THATS SPOKEN WITH AN INTENTION TO HURT CEASES TO BE THE TRUTH !!! Assertive communication has been one of the greatest satisfactions Iv had in recovery.
Well this day I gad to meet another challenge that an addictive personality like me will face oftentimes= I tend to look at outcomes rather than the process. Sometimes the process of fullfilling a desire or commitment seems very long drawn out. Im like fond of saying "God grant me Patience,,, but hurry up !" ha,ha,ha... So this day I was given another chance to move away from outcome orientation and insatant gratification and go towards hard work and process fullfillment,,, a sure way to serenity !! Thanks God and Steps and sharings from yall that im no longer trapped in the illusion of instant gratification !
-- Edited by Raman at 15:56, 2008-06-30
-- Edited by Raman at 15:58, 2008-06-30
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Raman an addict clean and serene just for today in NA Worldwide ; live to love and love to live the NA Way !!!
Had a great day by way of things happening,, also made a new mistake,,does this mean Im growing ? also lent a patient ear to a heartbroken person,, I wonder why some of us have such a hard time of letting go when a love affair is over ? Thats why they say its easy to accept intellectually but emotionally its a different matter and takes time to adjust when your lover has walked out on you ,or you find find youve been cheated. Thats a conclusion I drew from someone who shared heartbreak with me. Im also learing I need to be wary when I finish shows and then eat out at nite,,,usually soem issue like confronting drunks,accidents, and one has to really take care. This day I was faced with such a situation but sanity is in me cause I took the matter up with the cops and got redressal with my grievance about drunks getting abusive. Been a greatv day at home with quality time spent with ma and also with daughter. J and I had a long pnohe call and I enjoyed that conversation too. Im having a problem of my sponsor not responding to a mail I sent him. The practice with the jazz band wasgood too,,, in fact Im liking the way I dont react to certain people in that band anymore. So now as i become ready to retire at nite i say God, show me what Ive done right and wrong today and show me how I can better live and serve Thy will tommorow.
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Raman an addict clean and serene just for today in NA Worldwide ; live to love and love to live the NA Way !!!
