In the long run, it's easier to carry out our Higher Power's will than our own.
The good news of the Twelve Steps is that we don't have to continue trying to make self-will work. Attempting to make the rest of the world conform to what we think we want is a little like trying to push water uphill. It's not only frustrating - it's exhausting.
Getting in touch with a Higher Power frees us from the trap of self-will. We can move with the rhythm of reality instead of being stuck in fantasy. We can discover how we can be useful and what it is we do best.
How can I be sure I'm doing my Higher Power's will? There is, of course, no certain way to know, but what I rely on is an inner sense of lightness and rightness. I pray for guidance, I ask for answers, I listen to my inner voice, and I talk to people whose opinion I respect. I also believe if what I'm doing is not my Higher Power's will for me, I'll find out, since it won't work.
I ask to know my Higher Power's will for me today and/or the ability to carry it out.
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"If we do an honest examination of exactly what we are giving, we are better able to evaluate the results we are getting."Chapter 10 - Emotional Pain - NA Way of Life.
I like your "Our idea that we have been a victim must go.", you know we can see we were often a victim of circumstances but it's what we do with that that matters, do we hate, do we think less of ourselves because of where we were and are we to blame for what happened to us?
We've been molded, it's time to break the mold and rebuild, thats what we do here and why i'm here with you, thanks Tahir.
