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Brett thomas


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God knows we all make em.....

Not like I am someone in particular, but here over the past few months, I have seen those who thought they knew, those that have been put in their place, those who think they are the high and mighty, and those who are just along for the ride.

Bottom line for me is, I have learned that I have said hurtful things, I have been in the place where I knew it all and was brought down by humiliation and the fact that I was wrong, and over and over again, others in the program have forgiven me for my mistakes. The least I can do is return that forgiveness, for myself and others.

I really don't care who said what, I don't care if some of you have "issues" with others, all I care to do is share my experience strength and hope with people, and also get some from this site, which is a part of my recovery also. All the bullshit needs to stay elsewhere, talk about outside issues OUTSIDE. I have to remember newcomers show up here and read what I type, which had better be an example of the program, in my case.

Anyways, god forbid I have to be perfect in this program. I hope to learn from my mistakes, and share that knowedge with others, just like those before me did. As I stay clean and sober one more day, I hope that I learn from my mistakes, and grow because of them.....

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Tahir


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In my daily inventory, I continue the work I began in my first step by honestly admitting the mistakes I had made in the course of the day. When I realize that sometimes I was not able to remove my defects of character from a situation, I try to gain a deeper insight into the exact nature beneath these mistakes and my acting out on my defects so as to be able to transform them with the help of my Higher Power.

I check to see if I have harmed myself and others in the course of the day, and if so I try to make amends as best as I possibly could. After making amends, I consider myself forgiven and let go of the situation. When I make a mistake, I dont try to explain to others how or why the mistake happened as I found out that an explanation is an expression of my wish that the person harmed should approve my mistake by understanding or accepting it.

In fact, I dont even hope that the other should understand, because an individuals understanding and capacity to forgive, I believe, springs from his or her own lifes experiences, and therefore, I might actually end up doing more harm in the process as he or she might not be able to understand me or forgive me even if he or she wants to.

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BigV


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We're addicts and we're pretty messed up people some more then others but i'll be damned if I can cast any stones, if you guys saw what i've done in recovery in my real life I would be truly embarrased.

It's a road TO recovery paved with mountains and valleys IMO.


When I make a mistake, I dont try to explain to others how or why the mistake happened as I found out that an explanation is an expression of my wish that the person harmed should approve my mistake by understanding or accepting it.

That was well said Brett I find myself NOT doing what you do and end up even more distressed over situation, trying to MAKE people understand me and FOGIVE my behavior and actions, you are on the right track I thinkdoh

I think one thing I always wanted was to just be ok with myself , and even when I wasn't all screwed up I still didn't feel ok with myself and I should have been, I felt judged belittled I had no self confidence at all, felt self awareness that didn't feel good because i was fat, I felt ugly and dumb makes me cry just thinking about all of this now breaks my heart that that little boy got treated the way he did by his dad, but enough blaming move foreward with what I know and learn today.........Bless you guys for being here for me today thankyou

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Tahir


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BigV wrote:

I think one thing I always wanted was to just be ok with myself , and even when I wasn't all screwed up I still didn't feel ok with myself...


"The real healing begins when we understand that if our Higher Power created us this way, it must be okay to be who we really are."

((((((((((Big NA Hugs to BigV)))))))))) Thank you for sharing your feelings so intimately with me. Love you and need you in my recovery bro.

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rayne


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thanx guys ya know I often wonder what it would be like to get up every morning and hold a full time job with out worrying If I am going to break down mentally or not it would feel so good to be able th\o live life like others do but in my heart I know there is a divine purpose for me I just have to be patient and more will be reviled.

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Raman


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ok so we ee what te Basic Text has to say=
"insanity is repeating the same mistake and expecting different results"
the other one about mistakes is=
" when we make new mistakes we are growing "
my main f875 mistake now is again taking in sweets and cakes,,,i had stopped for about 5 months but now am back at again,,,,,,
when will i ever *&^%### learn i have had my gall bladder removed and the surgeon had warned me not to do sweets and chocolates and cakes !!
and now im waiting for a G@#!%^$  miracle !!

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Tahir


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So true about that one Raman... Also my first Sponsor used to tell me that growth is where our defects are... Mistakes are only my Higher Power's loving intention that I need to learn more and grow on from those experiences...

I can also relate with that obsession over food stuff... Had put on quite a tummy till sometime back, indulging in eating and eating and more eating all the time... I felt miserable as a result... there came a point of despair where I could no more live in that miserable state of overeating and binging on food...

I have reverted back to 3 meals, balanced ones, now. No eating at other times than these 3 meal times, not even a bite of something... Now I eat only when I have been hungry forawhile... blissful to eat this way... Am able to enjoy the food I eat... When I end my meal, my mind tells me that I'm still hungry and I need to eat more... my mind even manifests hunger physically within me... but I say a firm "No" and end my meal... Actually I started enjoying this new way of life... Abstaining from heavy, spicy non-veg food, and cakes and chocolates and milkshakes and any kind of junk food.

Feeling the difference already. My overgrown tummy is disappearing... lol... I'm more active, full of energy and my mind is free from the obsession of thinking about getting some foodstuff and eating all the time... I also realized that I tend to overeat many times due to lack of self-acceptance and a tendency to escape from some troubling issue that is disturbing me, within me... working on those issues now with the help of the steps instead of trying to fix it with food hoping that these hidden feelings would go away...

Glad to know that I'm not alone but. That there are others who have the same problems...

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Raman


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Thanks Tahir,,,
im trying to avoid people,places and things that encourage
"FOOD ACTING OUT",,,

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