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1.Heres soem old Wisdom on the Gratitude Attitude =

I took a glass of water and drank it till half !!!

Then i see and can think either thats its half full or I can think its half empty !!

2.And now heres some down to earth stuff !! gratis=

I hope i dont outrage you all, but here it is=

I am greatful for the little bit of sex im getting now and then,,, instead of having to beat up my meat !!and be left frustrated !!!

when I was married,,for five years i did all the sex i wanted with my willing wife,,, but the the charm died out !!

we then divorced and ended an otherwise bad marriage !!

(im very greatful it ended in time !!)

Then ive been lonely again in terms of whetting my voracious sexual appetite !!

Im not into paid sex anymore,, Im greatful for that change in my life !!

And i truly hate to take things into my own hands regarding desires !!

Ha, ha, ha !!!

Gee has sex been really an issue with me all my life !!

Im greatful i dont act on impulse anymore !!!

i thank my girlfriend for having been there and shared herself with me like that !!!

I felt like almost spiritual when making love and Im really greatful for this new experience !!!

I remember one nite after love,, at early morn time I looked out and saw the very big full moon and sat and Meditated and basked in the FULLMOONs LIGHT !!!

Im very greatful for that psychic experience !!!

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Raman an addict clean and serene just for today in NA Worldwide !!!

Tahir



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Date: 23 hr, 27 min. ago
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Greetings Raman,

Thanks for sharing so honestly  and about that wonderful experience on your spiritual experience thru sex. I could relate a lot with some of what you shared.

Sometimes, when I make love with my wife, I have felt that oneness, as if enveloped by the Spirit, where I had completely dissolved into my Beloved... I have realized that arousal is not only physical, but I have felt arousal of my heart too...

So grateful that today, in recovery, my Higher Power has healed and purified me to such an extent where I am able to experience sex as it truly was meant to be, a beautiful gift of the Higher Power to humankind... Sensuality and sprituality go hand in hand...

I think, sex as such is not dangerous for us addicts... but our addiction is what makes us abuse sex, just like we would drugs or food or power... Sex is just a basic necessity for anyone, just like hunger or sleep... a physical need... Would we think that eating or sleeping is bad or sinful or taboo to talk about... and our body must be deprived of food or sleep?

I had to unlearn all that my mind had accumulated over 3 decades on what I heard and experienced about sex as it was passed on to me by my family, community and the environment around me... It's a pity that the people have reduced the most powerful gift of the Higher Power to such an embarrassment...

These are my perceptions according to my experiences in life. Might not necessarily be so for others, and they don't have to.

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BigV



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Date: 15 hr, 55 min. ago
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I'm with you Raman on this LOL well not WITH YOU but I can understand the gratitude.

After my last relationship that ended really wrong I even relapsed over some of what went on inside of me, I was broken, emotionally, spiritually and physically but today I am so glad its over because it brought me to someone who is totally different and more to my likes and needs and even some wants , she is absolutely to good for me. I felt so broken like a piece of garbage after all the things I said and did i never felt i'd meet and be able to be loved by a good women, well I was very VERY VERY wrong.

I took time to look over everything that happened and knew I needed to make some serious changes and need to keep making changes especially how I react to others and women in particular, I can be abusive if i'm not careful I can be controlling and I can be down right mean. I get frustrated easily that had to change I needed to be more patient and understanding and not controlling but SUPPORTIVE.

I have a women now who enjoys sex as much as I do LOL even at 45 I am a beast. We make love and take care of each other sensually.

I got frustrated one night because I was worried I wasn't pleasing her, it scared her I had to sit back and take a few deep breathes to cool down and not let the frustration get ahold of me and I explained what was going on and she was so understanding but i did scare her she thought I was going to go off, like other men have done to her but I showed her a different man then what she's used to and it was honestly different for me to not react the way I usually do.

Tahir your right about basic instincts and how we abuse them, I eat too much I work out to hard sometimes, I drive to fast, I push to hard on others, I'm to hard on myself and others, when I drank I drank to much I smoked way too much crack the list goes on and on add in fin itummmmmmmmmmmmmmm

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