Frequently the word "child-services" gets mentioned. It's a casual topic, especially in some contexts. And it is for a reason, because a lot of children get hurt, abused, wronged, raped and a variety of veiled vile things. Apparently, it's a standard fulfillment-pattern, the kids being used in one way or another.

And so, when it gets too bad, the heroic society steps in and takes charge, reducing the child-abuse. That's the narrative, the default approach and lawyers, judges and enforcement are getting plenty of pay to cover the time-expense these so admirably expend. Do I mistake the story entirely?

And God knows, even religions must've seen countless "undesirable" situations during the course of human history. Adoptive parents are a casual thing, and of course the child needs desired co-processing; making sure they grow to handle morals, ethics and values well. Many take it for granted, but how do you go about abstaining off of something, or avoiding this or that situation, when constrained in some way? It's not easy. Children need the co-processing, the cultural awareness, the freedom to live a life as a good little component in the machinery of society; child-services pay great returns.

The surplus it leaves, lets society grow wealthier, stronger and attain greater standing in the interplay of societies, and all it takes is 'protecting' children. Nevermind that a biological parent cannot be replaced, the child fed by the ancestral connection, without which balance gets harder to maintain. That detail is easier to skip, just for now. After all, guardianship, parentalism and offspring are each separate terms, meanings and the like. And there are no 'sides' because it is all about caring for the children! 'We' wouldn't use abused children as weapons to gain advantage after all, that'd be despicable, the stuff even villains would spit at. There wouldn't be any skimping on details in the stepwork, would there?

And so, while children needs be guarded, it has nothing to do with how society oppresses, consumes senselessly, stuffs children with information like geese are in the production of foie gras (shoved down their throat, repeatedly). That, after all, doesn't at all generate immense negative pressures, loss of empathy, drain of emotional surplus, hollowing of lives and their capacity to show up at work, social life and at home all at the same time. So it has nothing to do with how parents are hollowed out by the same society, that uses that same hollowed-out state and the very dysfunctions that result, as precedence to mislead the children to pin the blame on their evil parents entirely. The children, then extracted into worshipping the society, educational culture and oft oppressive contexts, that so graciously protect them from the same unpleasant experiences they incur. And truly, sometimes well-applied state-powers does sometimes protect the children. However, not having been exposed to that particular malice, I'll refrain off of talking about that, leaving that to members who actually care to recover and sadly did undergo such malice.

Especially children exposed to sexual abuse; they must of course be guarded, no child ought ever suffer such a grim experience. There is no justice for it, nothing good about it. So it doesn't matter that the parents suffer a culmination of various pressures deforming their habits. It's not at all the rationalization on abuse of beings to extract food and pleasurable meals. It's not the disregard of kin, as children, parents, siblings, spouses, peers and the like are misled to oppress their loved ones; buying into negative labels, drug-fixery and disregard of personal responsibility for how we impact one another. It has nothing to do with sexual exploitation through ads, casual bar-culture (I mean, it's legal, they're over 18, or sell themselves willingly, right?). There is no connection whatsoever to the indulgence in extracting pleasure out of a young life, an animal or the like, nevermind the harm to the entity. It's not at all about the limited capacity to keep an atmosphere of recovery, despite the rationalized drugging and labeling, being squandered or caused squandered, instead of conserved for those that actually inescapably need it. It's doesn't at all take place at the pressure getting externalized unto those "outside" a limited context, far away or somehow excusable to wrong and neglect.

After all, that kind of malice just magically occurs, and then it can be terrorized away, that'll solve it, it's not at all addiction to terror; or therapized and drugged away, hiding it with oppression. So, obviously the parent does the deed, and the society is not at all indulging in consuming the rape of the child. Therefore the national society should have power over the narrative, story and child; while veiling the wrong of it and placing the entirety of blame upon the parent (who, pretty obviously, is shaping a behavioral expression that isn't entirely desirable and the child in truth need be guarded against). It's so sad when trust is lost in enforcement, guards and protecting those that cannot protect themselves, we wouldn't want that to fade by deceiving and pretending it's all the fault of the hands, the body, the life, the family-system, the networks.

So lets oppress, deny and pretend like the unhealthiness is not dependent on context and fixations by ways of life, consuming, societal attachments and the like. That it doesn't matter that all that pressure is generated, and then instead scapegoat the parents and damage the relation to their offspring too. 'Cause that'll make there be surplus to put towards protecting the children! Young lives that aren't the least bit burdened by being caused the problems by the same everyday societal malice, not at all eased by derivation under guise of "protecting children". Tragically, there truly is a need to protect children, hereunder against the wrongs a society will do and then hide it, blaming the parents etc. for it all. It seems to be one of those things shaping addiction of all kinds; ignoring the occurrence-nature of it, how it is like a stream with many tributaries. Can you find any that are innocent other than the children or ones that awareness would be drained if misused for pressuring into accepting being exploited sexually whether children, teens, youths or even mid-age?

It is very true that children must be protected. It simply is. But the way it is done, may benefit by a bit of honesty, lest the "protector" turns out the abuser, and who is worse? One that commits the vileness, or one that causes a hundred to commit the vileness with greater likelihood, and a thousand to be at risk? Maybe it'd be better to let the children know that indeed the parents do them wrong. .. But they're shaped to do them wrong, by the same society. The broader social context that tries to hide bloody hands, while very truly protecting them. Hopefully while teaching them that safe distance is vital. That it is not entirely the fault of the family-of-origin (upon which all blame is shifted), even as they are responsible, holding that power of vital nourishment without which a life suffers. They "chose " after all, so if not removing the children, then extracting senselessly out of the lives seems to be excused. Or .. is it that there is something lacking in the inventorying. How decision-making was passively shaped, impacted and led to "choosing" to?

Things can be figured out, to some extent, some degree, in some way, without wronging the child by consuming into the childs limited time, capacity and resources. Any life got natural connectivity it needs show up for, an individual %-part in society to be careful about and so on, and draining that .. well by experience that loss I cannot recommend being exposed to. After all, all naturally are connected to others with gender as well, holding natural romantic connections, even if that's best to endeavor into once (more than 18 years old or so? And there is only one birth, the time passed counted in planetary rotations around the local star, the sun - best not twist that one about).

After all, when a child is wronged, it creates a lot of costs down-the-line, especially if the child is attempted conveniently off'ed or suppressed to control the potentially infinitely negative economic losses; a process that creates that very kind of infinite negative economic loss. And what that translates to, down-the-line, is hardship in conveying the message, occurrences of addiction and other things that translate to using through the bodies of others, getting high or avoiding pain by doing so.

Talking about it as it is, instead of misusing state-power and abused children to hide participation in wronging children. That seems to be a start on respecting child-parent relations, instead of, under the guise of justice, consuming the decay of these. It's unsettling to think about this kind of thing. That there even is an opportunity for service by bringing it up, means there's a lot of unnecessary expenditures, a lot of squandering of the precious recovery. A great reason to not indulge in rationalizing the misuse of state-power, such as enforcement to sustain pushing by those clad in white coats, oppression under guise of medicine (telling me they didn't break the Hippocratic oath?). That dealing of narcotics, frequently making street-cocktails pale in comparison, rationalizing drug-abuse as a non-problem; even infecting the recovery-spaces with that denial. And boy are many buyers found through the programme, some business-boom. I was one of them.

I was all new, vulnerable, trying to keep an open mind, and it was not made easy to get even a year clean. Often drives me to regret I didn't keep my guard up, and that I entered recovery before I'd turned 20. But I try not to, lest others be hindered. It's annoying being attempted tricked every so often into thinking child-services to be such a great thing, while pinning all blame on the parents, fixing things with drugging and magical explanations misusing scientific and medical ethos.

I don't wish to pass on the disease of addiction, as it struck me through white-coat-clad dealers that in the first 6 months of my recovery suddenly were present in my life, trying to domesticate me into being a good little conduit of oppression-denial infecting the rooms. I gratefully try to pass on the recovery instead.

https://na.activeboard.com/t72483051/oppression-issue-infecting-na/ - holds a key to removing heavy unnecessary expenditures, unlocking 7th tradition contributions and avoiding a vile decline of the newcomer-capacity.

And while different to newcomers, Children must sometimes be protected as the capacity for their lives was robbed, and that kind of bandits often are clad in everyday-clothes looking like they contribute to society while actually incurring greater costs. And it is not desirable to be a tributary to occurrences of addiction, leaving kids struck by it. When society hides its own role in deforming parents, shifting ALL the blame unto the family-of-origin, it wrongs the parents and misleads the children. Better be a tributary to recovery, and make the investment of reducing demand for interventive child-protective services, while reducing the strain on civilizational shaping of guardianship.

Note: You can think of this as my assisting nature to decompose, breaking down some rotten denial and easing recovery. There are many depths to the ocean, many bottoms and an inventory can uncover things previously undiscovered. Plus hey, it'll reduce some strain on all those employed in systems pretending medical nature and using the pretense of nursery. This piece is useful for those struggling to .. respect the inherent bond between biological parent and child, whatever their reasoning. What do you think it does to a child, to be taught that the parent is the whole evil? The rooms doesn't seem a place to lure others into committing child-abuse, after all.

Not that I speak on behalf of any 12-step programme in any way, and will point out the usage of guarded rhetorics to avoid the text getting misused to violate children in the hidden, which does sadly occur, and sadly is very normally consumed occurring. Makes me want to not be in this world, if you wonder, I cant stand thinking about these things.