First I apologise if I'm in the wrong place but Im new and Im after some advice please.
my partner is 6months into his recovery. Things were really bad between us before because of his addiction and he did some awful things to me. As i said he is nearly 6 months clean and is 2 days from picking up his key ring. he has recently moved back in with me and our very young daughter, and has been trying really hard, hes been sticking to his word and being there for us etc. and to cut a long story short i found out he picked up today and has relapsed. Not only that but he was taking care of our toddler daughter whilst i was at work when it happened.
As i said before things got really bad towards the end and seeing him tonight brought back lots pf bad memorie. Idid get very angry, i said lots of horrible things, i kicked him out and ive told him hes not staying with us any more especially over Christmas. Now i know i have a right to be angry but looking back i dont think i dealt with it appropriately. i guess my question would be how should i deal with it? I know sending him off into the night with no where to go isnt it. I do want to help him but if its at the risk of our daughters safety then theres no question he cant be here with us
Thankyou for reading and any advice is welcome,
Sally
Nar-Anon http://www.nar-anon.org/what-is-nar-anon/ is for family/friends etc. of those dealing with us addicts.
IMO don't beat yourself up for kicking him to the curb. It's your house and if he can't abide by your house rules out he goes. Especially when your child is involved! He is responsible for his recovery, not you.
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While we generally don't give advice and only share our experiences, sometimes you have to make a stand. As in... My way or the highway. You can't get him clean. If he's unwilling to try it wouldn't be fair that you have to pay the price for his using.
Relapse is part of many peoples stories. Until he is so desperate that he really tries, you are going to have to set boundaries
