Love is like an elixir for some of us. The excitement of a new lover, the intrigue of exploring intimacy, the sense of release we get from allowing ourselves to become vulnerable--these are all powerful emotions. But we cant forget that we have only a daily reprieve from our addiction. Holding onto this daily reprieve must be the top priority in any recovering addicts life.
We can become too involved in our relationship. We can neglect old friends and our sponsor in the process. Then, when things get difficult, we often feel that we can no longer reach out to those who helped us prior to our romantic involvement. This belief can lay the groundwork for a relapse. By consistently working our program and attending meetings, we ensure that we have a network of recovery, even when were deep in a romance.
Our desire to be romantically involved is natural. But we mustn't forget that, without our program, even the healthiest relationship will not guard us against the strength of our addiction.
Just for today: In my desire for romance, I will not ignore my recovery.
-- Edited by Dave R on Saturday 6th of December 2014 06:18:12 AM
New romance in recovery can be just like a drug. Men love women and women love men. We all have done a few bad things in our romance situations. Some of us talk to our sponsors , others just ignore there sponsors . Our sponsors are there to advise or warn up if we are getting ti involved to fast .In my search for life long romance ,I will no ignore my recovery ,that I so earned the hard way .