One of the most profound changes in our lives is in the realm of personal relationships.
Basic Text, p. 57
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Recovery gives many of us relationships that are closer and more intimate than any weve had before. As time passes, we find ourselves gravitating toward those who eventually become our friends, our sponsor, and our partners in life. Shared laughter, tears, and struggles bring shared respect and lasting empathy.
What, then, do we do when we find that we dont agree with our friends on everything? We may discover that we dont share the same taste in music as our dearest friend, or that we dont agree with our spouse about how the furniture should be arranged, or even find ourselves voting differently from our sponsor at a service committee meeting. Does conflict mean that the friendship, the marriage, or the sponsorship is over? No!
These types of conflict are not only to be expected in any long-lasting relationship but are actually an indication that both people are emotionally healthy and honest individuals. In any relationship where both people agree on absolutely everything, chances are that only one person is doing the thinking. If we sacrifice our honesty and integrity to avoid conflicts or disagreements, we give away the best of what we bring to our relationships. We experience the full measure of partnership with another human being when we are fully honest.
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Just for today: I will welcome the differences that make each one of us special. Today, I will work on being myself.
In early recovery I did not know who to trust with my past. As I went to meetings I opened up to a few different men. One who asked me if I needed rides to meetings and one who took me to my first NA event.I have since found quite a few friends who I trust and always ask me how I'm doing.
