We become able to make wise and loving decisions based on principles and ideals that have real value in our lives.
Basic Text, p. 105
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Addiction gave us a certain set of values, principles we applied in our lives. You pushed me, one of those values told us, so I pushed back, hard. Its minewas another value generated by our disease. Well, okay, maybe it wasnt mine to start with, but I liked it, so I made it mine. Those values were hardly values at allmore like rationalizationsand they certainly didnt help us make wise and loving decisions. In fact, they served primarily to dig us deeper and deeper into the grave wed already dug for ourselves.
The Twelve Steps give us a strong dose of real values, the kind that help us live in harmony with ourselves and those around us. We place our faith not in ourselves, our families, or our communities, but in a Higher Powerand in doing so, we grow secure enough to be able to trust our communities, our families, and even ourselves. We learn to be honest, no matter whatand we learn to refrain from doing things we might want to hide. We learn to accept responsibility for our actions. Its mineis replaced with a spirit of selflessness. These are the kind of values that help us become a responsible, productive part of the life around us. Rather than digging us deeper into a grave, these values restore us to the world of the living.
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Just for today: I am grateful for the values Ive developed. I am thankful for the ability they give me to make wise, loving decisions as a responsible, productive member of my community.
Our values in active addiction were not the right ones.They were generated by our disease,we only new one kind of decisions and they were the wrong ones.Working the Twelve Steps gave us an idea of what real values are the living in harmony with ourselves and others. We become responsible for our own actions. It's mine is replaced with the spirit of selflessness.I am grateful for the values I have developed . I can make wise decisions as a responsible productive member of society.