Hello Kitty Blessings of this day!

WE remember first that we are also addicts and we reach out and share our pain to ensure we never pick up again,,,Im sure you are aware of this.I only share this from my own ESH with my son ,I have shared with you about,with his permission to share his story and his 7 years of hard core Heroin addiction. I didn't want to use but my recovery was shaken even after at the time over 2o years clean..Having said that I am looking at the positives here,,he decided to not deal and that is a step forward.WE stumble and fall daily.especially without daily work.....As also an active(not as at the moment)member of NAR-ANON  WE also learn that we didn't cause it cant contol it and can't cure it.But we can set rules of our house and boundaries(only what we will truly enforce and not too many)The hardest thing WE have ever done(including some things in my own 25 years of active addiction)was to put our son on the street at 19,$150.00 a day jones and 90lbs...It was a last resort to help him save his own life..WE knew he would get arrested ,go to jail,,die or look toward recovery.Nothing else we could do(based on my own evidence)As christians and also an addict I knew he would have to decide if he wanted recovery or the same,,,by enabling him we were helping his demise....WE all operate in our own way and our own time so there are ronno one size fits all answers,From our experience and thats all I can share,,,we set a boundary(if you shoot dope in the house you are out) and prayed to be strong enough to follow through if the situation occurred..I will lift you up in prayer and pray any decisions you make will be guided by your Higher Power,the God of your understanding..Just as little children,,people sometimes need boundaries and they will be tested..There is HOPE..And I share that my son ,now in his fourth year clean of dope ,has told us the best thing we ever did was give him a chance to fall down and find his way..Its not about what happens to us ut how we let it affect us...Keep the line of communication open,share your true feelings,we are human so we will be afraid but we can find comfort in our Higher Power...The message is HOPE and the promise of freedom but it takes the work..Our son started his heroin use at 17 and we were still responsible for all he did,the rip offs,jails,ICU units,robberies,etc....It was truly our faith,his decision and our work that  brought us through the storm..Be blessed and in God's strength.....Mike(you have my private mail if you want to talk)  :)

 

-- Edited by MIKEF on Tuesday 8th of April 2014 06:45:19 PM

Uggh, thank you for the support, things are just so frustrating and not getting better.
I'm at my own cross roads of sorts... thanks for the prayers for my decision making Mike I really them.
I'll email when I get a chance, work is crazy right now.

kd