I have mt ex girl friends son helping me do some things, 20 year old pot head but i knew him before he ever took a drug and he was such a good boy then she moved a short distance way to a really suck ass town and he ended up getting in with kids whos lives werent as protected as his and he fell right in. Unstable family, violence at home, lots of dysfunction in the family, separation of his parents, me the new guy in his moms life for awhile and off and on a lot, he fell right in with those around him and started using.
I have had some long talks with him since then the last few years letting him know what i went through, i was a lot like him but this kid is special hes has a great mind, I think he has or had a photographic memory, perfect college candidate but after he left high school he wanted to take a break for a while and not go right in, skipping ahead now 2 years and nothings been done, he's jumped around from place to place person to person, his mom got married moved quite aways away stayed with her a bit was a little tornado in there world came back here.
So I have first of all layed down ground rules, theres a whole list of things i'm not gonna put up with and it gives me a chance to talk with him but I know right the hell where he's at, in one ear out the other, its frustrating, but we'll see.
Very very busy lately i'm trying to slow down and keep a lower keyed pace and not make work my sole purpose in life , im picking an choosing jobs now for the first time i dont have to take on everything and over stess myself, i tore my bicep muscle this last weekend mining for gold rolling boulders over LOL and my bodys is usually aching all the time, getting old isnt for the faint of heart time to man up :) ok hope your all doing well too hahaha Blessings
...yeh V,,pretty hard to figure what to do,,especially as pot is getting the big 'okay' in some places at the same time as being ~20x stronger than in -our- youth--definitely-- a narcotic!
....I'm sure I'm not the only one that can relate fully to the lad's environment,,, ... although I likely would not have listened to some old codger,,,,I do look back and wish there had been someone like you with a voice of care and concern.....keep up the dialogue--it's the 1 in a 1000 that may listen,,but it's a thousand-fold victory when they do!
....I'm constantly amazed that my kids made it over 'stupid hill' especially my son,who had all the same challenges,,,in addition to growing up in a major growing area where the most available summer job is 'trimming'
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...gawd,,,please don't let me -ever- forget why I came here in the first place!!(my 'senility' prayer)
Thanx for share Vin....good to hear from you..........Yupp WE can only carry the message and our actions speak louder than words ever could..Be blessed brother.
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Our purpose is to remain clean,just for today,and to carry the message of recovery.
