Through active listening, we hear things that work for us.
Basic Text, p. 106-107
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Most of us arrived in Narcotics Anonymous with a very poor ability to listen. But to take full advantage of the therapeutic value of one addict helping another, we must learn to listen actively.
What is active listening for us? In meetings, it means we concentrate on what the speaker is sharing, while the speaker is sharing. We set aside our own thoughts and opinions until the meeting is over. Thats when we sort through what weve heard to decide which ideas we want to use and which we want to explore further.
We can apply our active listening skills in sponsorship, too. Newcomers often talk with us about some major event in their lives. While such events may not seem significant to us, they are to the newcomer who has little experience living life on lifes terms. Our active listening helps us empathize with the feelings such events trigger in our sponsees life. With that understanding, we have a better idea of what to share with them.
The ability to listen actively was unknown to us in the isolation of our addiction. Today, this ability helps us actively engage with our recovery. Through active listening, we receive everything being offered us in NA, and we share fully with others the love and care weve been given.
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Just for today: I will strive to be an active listener. I will practice active listening when others share and when I share with others.
The first thing I had to do was to shutup and listen to what was being said . It helped a lot . I only shared my name in the first month , then after 90 meetings in 90 days ,I put up my hand to share . I also read the readings at meetings , that helped me adapt to NA . I still like to listen to hear others , I think I am a good listener .
