Goodmorning and blessings of this day!Welcome to another day of Life to all, especially those here for first time,or just coming back.
Our last 15 months in our relocation to Florida from New York ,leaving our jobs(mine of 34 years)and starting new and seeking to be near my wifes family to help in their care has really excellerated to a place we had not anticipated. We are truly blessed as I am still seeking part time work,but my wife has really taken on the lions share of home nurses aid for both of her parents(and taken her from any options of pursuing work).My mother in laws Althizmers/Dementia has progressed so rapidly that my wife/her brother and other sister(who both work full time)are now sleeping overnite each a few nights a week to keep an eye on her.Family decisions are forthcoming on the correct approach to handling this situation and we are in constant prayer and seeking outside help,which is available.My father in law also wheelchair bound and not able to take care of his own personal needs /hygiene etc is also mind strong but physically going downhill. We are right where the God of our understanding needs us to be but we (I) am asking my support group here at MIP to join me in a moment of reflection (in the way you do)and lift our family up for continued strength and wisdom in making decisions and leaving the results to the God of our understanding.Day by day,WE trust God's will be done,we are fallible but our Faith remains strong.....I personally am so blessed knowing that even in recovery we will face difficult times and Life will continue to happen but knowing that by remaining lucid,free from the monster of active addiction, a day at a time,doing the work, thru God's grace and mercy,,it avails me to be of most help in a trying situation.Thank you in advance for your reflection......Peace and serenity in your lives.....
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Our purpose is to remain clean,just for today,and to carry the message of recovery.
Always them changes.
You and your family are doing the noble and right thing.
Mental illness takes a huge toll on everyone.
I'm going through something similar with my mom.
The range of emotions is draining.
God bless us everyone.
Mike you and family are in my prayers . I just lost my 94 year old Dad ,10 days ago .It was hard to care for him . But you and your wife are doing a wonderful thing for her parents . May God be with you both .
No question you and your family are to be admired for your strength and commitment to the total family circle. Just don't be afraid or too proud to seek outside help and guidance, not just within your Recovery and Spiritual realms but including professional, in finding the continued path that may be best for all involved. I don't mean easiest, such a path you've already shown not to follow. Peace and widsom to you brother.
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Difficult times here with my grandmother, 1 aunt moved from Washington state to care for my ailing grandmother a year ago who at the time had dementia and also cancer, then a month ago she had a stroke, recovered from that stroke and had another, then pneumonia, bowel obstruction. I have visited with her twice in the last month the last visit was good 2 weeks ago she was awake and doing well then last week things went south, edema in her joints water building in her lungs and pain, she went into what i call death sleep. Now hospice has come and started 3 days ago or so with morphine.
She told my sister she is ready to cool her feet in her river under her tree, that was about a week ago, family is vigil over her I have chosen not to go back and vigil over her, my mom and 2 aunts are watching over her, cousins have come from far to say good bye to her, 94 years old, the last 2 years she has slowed greatly, losing her license to drive was the start, as it goes living many years as she has, what a great strong woman raising 3 girls by herself, as a waitress for 35 years, a church woman who ran the jelly and jam making for church bizarre's, ran the business they had doing estate sales for the church for years, tending her garden year round, never smoking or drinking much, never saw her drink, she took care of me for about 6 months while I was in my disease feeding me and taking all my bullshit as an active user does, yet forgiving me, I have made amends to her since then.
I'm really hating this death thing and it has me thinking a great deal about my own life. My sisters husband died 4 years ago, it was swift but still so difficult, it doesnt matter where your at in life, death comes calling sooner or later, sometimes later is worse then jst a nice swift kick outta here....:)
Hey Vin, good to hear from you.
Well, you know what I mean. Sorry about the grief in your family.
I completely understand about "a nice swift kick"
This "Life at any cost" crap is crap.
We prolong the lives of people who should have died and all they do is suffer.
I don't see anything civilized about it.
Prayers for peace.
God Grant me the serenity to accept to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Blessings and prayers! May the Lord continue to carry your family in His wounded healing hand and bless you with the special graces of strength and wisdom as you seek.
I spent my clean and still kicking anniversary yesterday with my dear daddy in the hospital while my mom took a day to recoup from her own exhaustion.
Both in their 70s, his close brush with death and her diminishing physical and mental strength has brought out in me a most humble and compassionate desire to care for them both through my dad's long recovery ahead.
You and your family are to be admired and are my inspiration.
Peace always, kd
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