There is a person with double digit clean time who recently called me on the phone and threatened to whip my A#%, as the days went by people came out of the woodwork to inform me I'm not the first, and that this guy is a womanizer as well. I have really been considering putting this guy out on front street for the protection of the fellowship, more so the newcomer and woman. what do ya'll think.
What does the phrase "putting this guy out on the front street" mean? I see no reason to provoke this person or whip has A#%. That is old, addict behavior. The best thing to do is find a peaceful way of dealing with this situation. Violence is not the answer.
I too wonder what exactly you mean by "putting this guy out on the front street" It has been said the 'clean time does not equal recovery' and i have found this to be very true. So his 'double digit' clean time means nothing in terms of his spiritual development. As for him threatening you, if that can be proven e.g. he has threatened you in front of witnessess, than that is a crime and you can have him arrested. That being said if he attacks you then certainly you should defend yourself. But provoking violence(if that's what you meant) "for the good of the fellowship" sounds like a rationalization to me. I always felt that recovery included change in all areas of my life, not just my drug use. It's working for me. I hope you find something that works for you.
I agree that trying to put out "stuff" about another addict at a meeting will only cause dissension something WE don't want to do especially when our primary purpose is to carry the message of recovery.Some are sicker than others and we are all addicts.As hard as it may be I would suggest approaching this person yourself and see if you can straighten things out.it seems as if others already know this persons M.O.I would seek my Higher Power and look toward a spiritual solution to the situation rather than one of "possible revenge? Our journey forward is to change our attitudes and behaviors and turn our will and lives over to the care of our HP.You may meet many in the process that you find hard to like but we do try and love each other,difficult but not impossible.Violence only begets violence,our true colors will shine thru as we progress through our process..Talk with your sponsor,I have been at meetings where "group conscious "meetings were set up to asses situations of violence,and other HUMAN things...Let us know how you make out WE do not govern........Peace
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Well first I put his phone number on my ignore list so I never had to talk with him again. Then I'd say a prayer for him and let it go. If he personally offended me face to face, I'd turn and walk away. HIS problem(s)...not yours. Life is too short to let others occupy space in our minds.
It's okay to warn people about someone their own good. That's just commonsense. But it's not a good idea to start gossiping about someone, talking trash, spreading dirty, etc. Like others have said, talk to your sponsor about this. It seems that one thing this guy has accomplished is that he has given you a major resentment. Whatever you do, you need to working on letting go of that, for your own serenity.
I would like to thank you folks for all your feed back and can say that I have truly taken it all to heart. There will be no law involved, no more discussion about this guy unless God chooses fit. I am in search of a new sponsor because I learned some new truth about my old one, I want recovery, I want to live, this is a "DEADLY" disease for me and will not allow anyone become a negative influence in my recovery.
