My husband is a recovering heroin addict. He was clean for almost 8 years until he just relapsed. Now he has 5 months clean and is a complete asshole. I kicked him out of our house in January and he went on a binge for about a month before getting sober. Now he is living in a sober house on a lake and going to the beach everyday while I work 3 jobs and take care of our 2 kids. I am happy that he is clean, but I am soooo mad that he left all this responsiblity on me. He hates dealing with reality so his way of avoiding reality is to completely shut me and the kids out. Doesnt call, doesnt text, doesnt see us. He lives about 1 1/2 hours away. Is he just being selfish or is this what they teach you to do to work on yourself?? Someone PLEASE HELP>????
Im sorry for your situation ,a single parent left to rear the children,work and maintain the household without support is a daunting task.I can only suggest that you will have to ask him why he is doing the things he is doing.I can also highly suggest seeking out a program of support for yourself.I am an addict named Mike and the parent of a 27 year old recovering heroin addict and I can truly identify with your situation.As addicts WE do have to find our way and do whatever it takes to remain clean a day at a time.I am also an active member of Nar-Anon, a fellowship for relatives and friends of addicts.Like the addict,others also need to understand that they didnt cause the situation,they can't cure it but can find a way to help themselves know the tools to ensure their lives are not out of control.You can GOOGLE Nar-Anon .org for a meeting place near you.With all on your plate it will be difficult,but if the pain starts outweighing any pleasure you'll make a decision to also do what it takes.The resentments will surely continue to mount if there isn't a 'change" of some sort in your relationship.I will keep you lifted up in prayer.I have been married 3x and divorced 2x and can truly identify with the disinegration of relationships.Let us know how its going .Peace
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I'm sorry to hear you going through this. Unfortunately it is not a unique story. Addicts in early recovery sometimes separate themselves from loved ones because the responsiblities and guilt amount to pressure and they can't handle pressure so, in their mind, it's either stay away or use.. Going to nar anon will help..You'll meet others who can relate to your situation and offer concrete suggestions as well as support. if no nar anon groups are local to you then al anon groups are usually receptive to spouses of drug addicts. I wish you and your entire family well. peace.
