We made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
Step Nine
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In every relationship, we dont always handle things the way we would have hoped. But friendships dont have to end when we make mistakes; instead, we can make amends. If we are sincerely willing to accept the responsibilities involved in friendship and make the amends we owe, those friendships can become stronger and richer than ever.
Making amends is simple. We approach the person we have harmed and say, I was wrong. Sometimes we avoid getting to the point, evading an admission of our own part in the affair. But that frustrates the intent of the Ninth Step. To make effective amends, we have to keep it simple: we admit our part, and leave it at that.
There will be times when our friends wont accept our amends. Perhaps they need time to process what has happened. If that is the case, we must give them that time. After all, we were the ones in the wrong, not them. We have done our part; the rest is out of our hands.
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Just for today: I want to be a responsible friend. I will strive to keep it simple when making amends.
I know when I wrote my Step Nine I had a list of amends to make .I discussed them with my sponsor.A few of them would bring up old misery for all parties involved.I had amends to say to addicts who have died.I wrote a letter went to the graveyard sat by there grave and read the letter and ask the Higher Power to help.One who I talked to told me to go to hell.A few others accepted my amends and gave me amends back.Being able to admit our wrongs and asking for help and forgiveness is a wonderful thing.
Making amends for the wrong that i have done to people in my life, has become easy when i have no expectations on how it will be received. The freedom form taking this step has been more spiritual rewarding because it puts me in a good place with my Higher Power.
