my youngest son (22) phoned me the other night and was upset because he isant finding a job like so many others. But he was going on about how it would be so much better to just start selling drugs like i would do to make ends meet he commented on how it worked for me...i had to laugh at him and let him know exactly how much it didnt work for me...and i thought later on after i'd hung up that if my son thought it worked so great ...with me going to jail and ending up homeless in the end how funny it was to be having this conversation...doe he not remember the hell i put him through in my addiction ? i phoned him back and reminded him just how well selling drugs really worked... he thought about it... and tried alittle bit harder and today he got a job. Now if that wasnt a blessing from a higher power ...
also i'd like to thank all of you that reply to my post it is very encouraging to have some recovery on line when i cant get to meetings to share and lissten....i appreciate all of you. i'll keep coming back.
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kelly lofquist
Dont stress over what couldve been, chances are if it shouldve been, it wouldve been...
When we truly trust our higher power we can realize how things that we ordinarily would consider a negative, may actually be a positive. Finding work is a good example. It is so typical for addicts to come into recovery broken and desparate. then, after some time they are clean, got back some health, and immediately want to find a job. I have seen many cases where this was a huge mistake. Recovering addicts who are facing life without the veil of drugs don't always know how to cope with the pressure situations work often creates. They have money in their pockets, are meeting other young people who are not in recovery, have to follow instructions and do what they are told, need to get a good nights sleep etc. etc. etc. So often do these young people relapse, some with dire consequences....because they thought that finding a job would solve their problems. I don't always have the answer for these young people....It would be arrogant of me to suggest that a person NOT find a job so they can live in some semblence of dignity. But I do know that it is a dangerous time when young addicts get work before they are really grounded in recovery. That is why it is often suggested to not make any major changes in the first year of recovery... Of course finding a regular job is ALWAYS better than dealing drugs, but I see relapse so often in young people around work and the other biggie i.e. relationships, that i just had to spout. I wish him and you all success and happiness.
