Do you know anyone that might need a daughter-figure in his life?? A HUGE source of issues for my girlfriend is from her dad not caring for her, being there or advising her to make healthy decisions throughout her youth. Even when he writes to her, currently from prison, its all about him his issues only a short line at the end stating I hope you are alive & ok. I was thinking maybe we (she & I) could find someone that either had a kid & was not sober through the kids youth maybe his kids are now grown & dont want any part of him but he needs, for himself & his progress in life, to provide love & caring for someone to make up for it or maybe never even had kids but knows what were healthy decisions that made him progress in life & can advise her to make those choices in the right way. Get what I mean? She needs a dad who will truly give her healthy advice & not SHOOT HER UP WITH COKE (that was her fist time- he started her on it) on her 19th bday as an effin bday present. We have reached out to some people in meetings & through church, but havent found a 'good fit' yet. She DOES NOT need financial help, physical contact or anything of that sort. Just a man who will spend some time with her as a father figure. It can be on-line communication, or (I prefer) actually finding someone in the Phila area to physically meet with for coffee/snack, etc. I'll even treat you guys! I LOVE this girl & want to spend my life with her- the only thing standing in our way is her addiction. I'd appreciate any feedback! Thanks! Jen <3 Elaine
Elaine: While I have compassion for your situation, the topic/problem you bring up is beyond the scope of this discussion board. We focus on recovery from addiction through the 12 steps of Narcotics Anonymous. You might find additional support in programs for family members and friends of addicts, such as Nar-Anon or Al-Anon.
Im just saying that from a young gun who lost her dad very young that finding father figures who are not also interested in having sex is a VERY difficult situation. Just saying. And I hope you both the best.
