My al/ad daughter is currently living with me until her apt. become available on the 1st. Long story short, I've been detaching from her for the past year due to her active using, she lost her apt. most of her belonging, car, and kids. Her 16 y.o. son is staying with me, her 6 y.o. dr. is staying with her father, anyway, I allowed her to stay with me after she had been homeless for more than a month, she had been staying here and there and anywhere. I told her she would have to go to meeting if she stayed with me. I felt good because she went to a meeting yesterday (n/a). Today we were talking, I've heard some of this before, but she went on with a lot of delusional talk about voodoo/witchcraft, saying she received an evil spell that had been intended for me when I was carrying her. She had a lot of angry mean delusional things to say about everyone mostly family members. She she I was never there for her when she was growing up, and I was now there for her now because I don't understand her. I always tell her I don't believe in voodoo or any of the witchcraft stuff she talks about, the only thing I know to do is take her to mental health ( she is 44), I took her there a few yrs ago and they told her she would have to get off the drugs and alcohol before they could see her, esp. for medications. I did remind her of the three choices we have insanity, sobriety or death. I'm so stressed and physically drained after listening to all this stuff, she was all serious and dramatic when talking about this, I told her several times that I didn't believe in this stuff, didn't understand it and didn't want to hear it, she kept on talking. I do plan to help her get to mental health. Is this behavior normal for chronic drug abusers, I think she has been using al/dr since age 13-14. Any help would be appriciated. Thank you!
seek suggestions from Naranon . There is a site in this MIP network for family of addicts . They can teach you all you need to know . God help you and her . Your going to need it .
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I don't see how answering this question is going to help you.
the behaviors you described are not normal for anyone. Chronic abuse can lead to delusions and psychosis, but it is equally true that mental illness can lead to drug abuse.
The MH professionals gave her the best advice, namely "first get off the drugs then get a psych eval."
You are welcome to post here anytime you wish and we will try to help you, but al-anon and nar-anon are the places where you will find the most support from people dealing with an addicted loved one.
Your daughter needs to detox, but that won't happen unless she wants it.
Seeking help from like-minded people would be my best suggestion for you. I looked at your profile and this might help:
http://nar-anon.org/Nar-Anon/California.html
Please please please check them out. It looks like there's a bunch of meetings in your area. This is a family disease - addiction doesn't just affect the addict. Everyone an addict comes in contact with is affected. Nar-anon teaches family members and loved ones how to lovingly detach from the addict to keep some sanity for themselves.
