We learn that conflicts are a part of reality, and we learn new ways to resolve them instead of running from them.
Basic Text, p. 90
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From time to time, we all experience conflicts. It may be that we just cant get along with that new coworker. Maybe our friends are driving us crazy. Or perhaps our partner isnt living up to our expectations. Dealing with any conflict is difficult for recovering addicts.
When tempers rise, it is often a good idea to back away from the situation until cooler minds prevail. We can always return for further discussion when we have calmed down. We cant avoid troubling situations, but we can use time and distance to find perspective.
Conflict is a part of life. We cant go through our entire recovery without encountering disagreements and differences of opinion. Sometimes we can back away from these situations, taking time to reflect on them, but there always comes a time when conflict must be resolved. When that time comes, we take a deep breath, say a prayer, and apply the principles our program has given us: honesty, openness, responsibility, forgiveness, trust, and all the rest. We didnt get clean to keep running from lifeand in recovery, we dont have to run anymore.
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Just for today: The principles my program has given me are sufficient to guide me through any situation. I will strive to confront conflict in a healthy way.
Conflict is tough for me. I like to avoid conflict because I don't want to get upset and have people angry with me. Conflict is unpleasant and can be scary if someone decides to get abusive or violent. However, sometimes conflict cannot be avoided and problems must be confronted head-on. Our home group has been dealing with a member who has been violating the group conscience and the group's trust. This has been a difficult situation that we had to deal with and could not avoid.
Yes learning to approach manners in a "loving and caring" manner(not always easy) has helped me address issues in a better way .Some things have to be approached in order to be rectified, there are better ways than fights,resentments,altercations etc..We use a Pamphlet from World , in our homegroup, that you can checkout or pick up at area called 'Disruptive andViolent Behavior.Some good guidelines you can address in your business meeting should situations occur and how your group can handle them for the benefit of all.....
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Our purpose is to remain clean,just for today,and to carry the message of recovery.
