I have currently been with the same partner for almost 3 years, and we have 2 sons together. Though I love and respect him as the father of my children, since we have gotten sober, I am coming to find that my feelings about him have changed drastically. I want to take a break from the relationship and focus on my sobriety... Any advice???
Hi Annie267! Good to see you again!! One thing we shy away from is giving advice ,we can suggest what works for us and what doesn't..... I could only suggest following your heart, be honest and upfront and communicate your feelings and continue working your recovery in the best way possible for you. Dr Phil I am not, so I can only pray for your serenity and peace that will keep you moving forward a day at a time. Sometimes we find after the storm, that our relationships didn't have much in common except getting twisted together..that may or may not be the situation ,only you know whats in your heart. Hopefully you are making meetings,getting a sponsor and heading toward getting in our "solution" steps worked with a sponsor..Keep coming back let us know how your doing....peace
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Our purpose is to remain clean,just for today,and to carry the message of recovery.
It is not unusual for relationships to turn when one or both of the partners get clean. Your feeling things differently, your acting differently, and what you see in the other person is different. Change is essential if you are to stay clean. Some changes are happy from the start. Others have some pain. All are for the best in the long run.
Focusing on your recovery should be your first priority. If that means this relationship must be put on hold for a while, so be it. This is really something you need to talk to your sponsor and higher power about.
sweetie, i know how you feel. my ex just kicked me out a little over a week ago. we were both heavy into pills, and one morning, he woke up and decided he didn't want me anymore. so i ended up out on my butt, with two cats and no home. luckily a friend took me in and i'm working towards the end of detox. you can only count on yourself. you have to do what's best for yourself. love yourself. surround yourself with people who care and do the best you can for your kids. it'll get easier, it just takes time. i'll be thinking of you. best of luck.
