They can be analyzed, counseled, reasoned with, prayed over, threatened, beaten, or locked up, but they will not stop until they want to stop.
Basic Text, p. 65
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Perhaps one of the most difficult truths we must face in our recovery is that we are as powerless over anothers addiction as we are over our own. We may think that because weve had a spiritual awakening in our own lives we should be able to persuade another addict to find recovery. But there are limits to what we can do to help another addict.
We cannot force them to stop using. We cannot give them the results of the steps or grow for them. We cannot take away their loneliness or their pain. There is nothing we can say to convince a scared addict to surrender the familiar misery of addiction for the frightening uncertainty of recovery. We cannot jump inside other peoples skins, shift their goals, or decide for them what is best for them.
However, if we refuse to try to exert this power over anothers addiction, we may help them. They may grow if we allow them to face reality, painful though it may be. They may become more productive, by their own definition, as long as we dont try and do it for them. They can become the authority on their own lives, provided we are only authorities on our own. If we can accept all this, we can become what we were meant to becarriers of the message, not the addict.
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Just for today: I will accept that I am powerless not only over my own addiction but also over everyone elses. I will carry the message, not the addict.
3 guys i know in the last week have relapsed, one of them wont even talk to me seems like he's blaming me or something cause i'm to hard on him. Shit i understand BLAME BLAME BLAME others and dont take responsibilty been there done that.
I know what i have is Gods grace i never should have been clean, never would have done it on my own, powers greater then me and a sincere desire keep me clean,
Yes I just had an addict I had been staying close to go back out.just stopped coming to meetings,Had him over for thanksgiving and asked him to share at my 26 yr. celebration. As soon as he started asking for $$$ I thought something was up,told him to call and keep in touch and I was available if he wanted to talk.....,,,,.Talked a very good program,just not ready....He knows where we are..I pray for him and all those who still can't reach the light for one reason or another!! But for the grace of God!!
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Our purpose is to remain clean,just for today,and to carry the message of recovery.
