As I work my recovery I keep coming up against one individual, a sibling, that I cannot find the willingness to forgive. I've tried an inventory where I look for what defects of mine had a role in the offenses but I was just a kid.
Most of us illegal drug addicts had a 'mentor'; someone who showed us how to score, prep and do our drugs as well as how to navigate the lifestyle, took us to the right apartments, told us who our "real friends" were. Our first enabler.
I need some E/S/H on how to forgive that person and let that resentment go. For my sake...not theirs.
Pray for the willingness to forgive. Pray for the other person. Even if it isn't sincere at first, just keep doing it. When you feel the resentment boiling up, stop and pray. It's hard to hate someone you are praying for. this is yet another one of those "simple but not easy" things our program is famous for. good luck.
Hey Robb! absolutely,,keeping resentments is said to be like us drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die..Our literature tells us being lead by our Higher Power and secure in the love of the fellowship and working the steps we have begun to heal.We will learn forgiveness for those who harmed us(when we were little)THIS IS POSSIBLE!!The memories may sadden us but we will no longer have to carry the burden.We learn to forgive others.We strive to forgive rather than be forgiven.We try and act in such a way that we feel worthy of self love..We are told the weight of our resentments will hinder our spiritual development We'll continue to nourish our spirits with good thoughts,kind words and service to others.We strive each day to treat others with tolerance and forgiveness we seek for ourselves!!Remaining ever God centered and "using' spiritual principles in our lives will help "free us"Our work is never done and I believe this is all part of our individual processes..I found thru turning my will to the care of ,making direct amends ,continuing my inventory daily and always seeking the will of my Higher Power is has helped me reach I never thought I could....You know I was (continued work here)"kinda grudge to the grave type dude!! God has helped me ,through our process in Narcotics Anonymous to move forward.You are doing the work,more will be revealed..peace
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Our purpose is to remain clean,just for today,and to carry the message of recovery.
Just remember that by forgiving others for their actions helps us in our own healing process. We can forgive someone without letting them back into our lives. I'm sure that you have people in your life that you would like forgiveness from for things you did while in active addiction. What is that saying, do unto others as you would have done unto you.........
Ive just completed a worksheet on Radical Forgiveness. Its like we had expectaions, interpretations and behaviours that placed us in positions to be hurt.
So after writin my story of why i was upset and with whom, at the nd of the process I learn to forgive myself..
The Step Guide gives us a lot of material to work out too...
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I wish i could but i can't forgive myself nor can I forgive anybody else. I only pretend to forgive. I let it go by forgetting about it. I don't hold on to it because I know its unhealthy but deep inside me there will always be that feeling of hate. Maybe one day I won't feel that for certain people. Pray for me please and don't forget to celebrate with me my 18 month anniversary. thanks to NA and a loving God(dess) of my understanding I don't have to use today.
Hi, I just logged on to this site, at the suggestion of my new counselor. I found myself bawling big tears while reading about the topic of forgivness, so obviously this is a big issue for me. On one hand, I want to forgive, but on the other, It seems like justification, even though it has torn my life apart. The person who turned me onto drugs was my ex husband. This drug addiction has ruined my children's live's and my relationship with them. This was the most vial, evil thing to do to a family, and I don't understand how I can forgive him. I would really love to be done with all of the crap in my life...
I am following Avid's advice. I also saw a great moment in a meeting last week. A couple, both addicts and both in their early digits, have started coming to meetings together...seeking the answer together. One of them is my sponsee and I know how much shit they have put each other through in their addictions.
If they can begin to forgive...so can I. My HP can help me do anything.
well im not trying to sound like cuz lord knows im far from perfect but they say u can forgive but you will never forget. i learned that from experience but hopefuly you can find it in ur heart to forgive its not gonna be easy good luck
