Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.
Tradition Twelve
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Principles before personalities. Many of us chant these words along with the reader whenever the Twelve Traditions are read. The fact that these words have become a cliche of sorts doesnt make them any less important, either in service or in our lives. These words are an affirmation: We listen to our conscience and do whats right, no matter whos involved. And that principle serves as one of the cornerstones of recovery as well as our traditions.
What does principles before personalities really mean? It means we practice honesty, humility, compassion, tolerance, and patience with everyone, whether we like them or not. Putting principles before personalities teaches us to treat everyone equally. The Twelfth Step asks us to apply principles in all our affairs; the Twelfth Tradition suggests we apply them to our relations with everyone.
Practicing principles doesnt stop with our friends or when we leave a meeting. Its for every day, for everyone in all areas of our lives.
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Just for today: I will listen to my conscience and do whats right. My focus will be on principles, not on peoples personalities.
We always say principles before personalities at meetings, but it is sometimes tough to live up to this standard, especially when someone has a personality that I find to be irritating. I must look beyond this and concentrate on the message of recovery that they have to share.
I'm an intolerant idiot who likes playing God, I like to play the director and the leed role too , matter of fact I like running the whole damn show, I have to practice humility quite often and I let certain things just drive me nutz, then I surrender that thing and i'm ok.
Generally I'm pretty good with this concept but when I'm faced with dishonesty and grandstanding I find it hard not to make judgements and shut down to what they are saying.