hi everyone. i am new here.am also new to 12 steps program.my nephew has a problem with heroin.my cousin his mum is struggling to cope with what is going on.i don't really know how best i can help her or him.so i thought i would come here and ask!thanks.meg
For addicts the best place to be is at a narcotics anonymous meeting. Go to na.org and follow the link for 'find a meeting' For family members the best answer is nar-anon, or al-anon. these are 12 step programs for family members of alcoholics and addicts. The support you will find there is excellent. This disease is a living nightmare for all involved. You can't make the addict get help, but you certainly can, and should get information and support so you can help yourself. Good luck, and may God bless you all.
Welcome! I can suggest checking out programs for parents and friends of addicts such as Naranon,Al-anon etc...You can google either one of those sites for info and meetings in your area...Thanks for showing up here,addiction is "a family disease" that wreaks havoxc in all areas...keep coming back okay..let us know how your doing!!!
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Welcome - I think it's awesome that you want to help - and in seeking help for others. We find that we find help also with dealing with life stuff..I recommend anyone to check out a 12 step program -It will help change your life.
New to NA, have tried just about eveything else and have gotten nowhere. My question if that I am a chronic pain patient and have no choice but to take certain meds. To date they are not the substances I tend to abuse. My question is that some say to abstain completely. If I do that I will spend the majority of my life stuck in bed. Others seem to understand more. My question is do I just keep the medical issue and substance use to myself or do I open up and let the chips fall where they may?
I am on the lowest dose that allows me to function. I still have days where even that is not enough to keep me out of bed. The dose I'm on allows me to help my kids with homework, fix dinner, maintain the house and participate in my kids activities. It's just difficult to not worry about being judged because I've spent a lifetime dealing with that. I am hoping that through this program I will learn to let those judgements roll off my back.
On another topic, is there anything I can do to help my husband understand that it isn't that I dont' want this to work but that the anxiety can be overwhelming?
My issue is not exactly the same but deals with my husband. I am the addict and have been attending meeting regularly but he won't make more than a half hearted effort to help himself. I can understand the anger but don't know how to live with the anger and coldness indefinitely. Not sure what how to handle this.
Ok something weird happened so if this is posted twice I apologize. I have been attending NA meetings on a regular basis. My husband is so angry which I can understand because I have been on his end. My dad is an alcoholic. My husband keeps promising that he will atttend a support group (Al-anon/NA-ranon) but his effort is less than stellar. I want him to get help so that he can be happy again and our 20 year marriage will continue to be positive. If he won't go to a support group is there anything I can do to help him? Or, do I just focus on me and let him find his own way? I really need some advice because I'm tired ot the constant negativity and fighting.
-- Edited by Liliput on Thursday 4th of November 2010 03:52:33 PM
We are powerless over what other people do, think or say. This is your recovery and you need to focus on getting well and nothing else...... Relationships are hard even at the best of times. Early recovery is a time of change and those around us need to learn to adjust to our new way of life and this is a process that they need to go through in thier own way and in thier own time. Just keep the faith and stay well my friend.....
