When we admit that our lives have become unmanageable, we dont have to argue our point of view.... We no longer have to be right all the time.
Basic Text, p. 58
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Nothing isolates us more quickly from the warmth and camaraderie of our fellow NA members than having to be right. Insecure, we pretend to be some kind of authority figure. Suffering from low self-esteem, we try to build ourselves up by putting others down. At best, such tactics push others away from us; at worst, they draw attack. The more we try to impress others with how right we are, the more wrong we become.
We dont have to be right to be secure; we dont have to pretend to have all the answers for others to love or respect us. In fact, just the opposite is true. None of us have all the answers. We depend upon one another to help bridge the gaps in our understanding of things, and we depend upon a Power greater than our own to make up for our personal powerlessness. We live easily with others when we offer what we know, admit what we dont, and seek to learn from our peers. We live securely in ourselves when we cease relying on our own power and start relying on the God weve come to understand in recovery.
We dont have to be right all the time, just recovering.
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Just for today: God, I admit my powerlessness and the unmanageability of my life. Help me live with others as an equal, dependent upon you for direction and strength.
Though I have moral principles that I stand by, and I like to argue, I don't have to be right all the time today. Often, it is best to not express my opinion, and just let others be. This makes it easier to get along with people. No one wants to have to deal with a self-righteous ass.
Learning humility,tolerance and perserverance takes work for a hardhead like this addict.Through seeking the will of my Higher Power,whom I choose to call God, and instilling in my thoughts that there are no Big I's and little U's in our fellowship(sometimes not so evident!!) :)..(We do not govern?)...... I can remain centered even when one of my larger character defects is "that need to be right",,Man do I want to let you know!!!!!!! Thank God, I feel like I remain teachable and can now step back,but takes continual work.............
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Our purpose is to remain clean,just for today,and to carry the message of recovery.
Get a freaken home group and watch the drama and the people move LOL .
I'm tellin you the more i get involved in this program the more i see INSANITY amongst us and the more i see it in myself the more I try and turn to God for help. Help staying out of other peoples insanity and more into being in service to others, i'm not CHRIST or some saint thats for damn sure, some of this crap I see is regodamndiculous LOL and i do enough of it myself to keep me busy heh heh.
Dave and Mike I can so relate to both your posts. For me today I realise that I can think what ever I want but I don't have to verbalise it...... Today I can even agree to disagree.... Today with my HP by my side I am open to other's opinions and I have learnt that there are different ways of doing things and that doesn't make them wrong just different..... Today I'm OK with who I am and I don't have to prove how good I am I just have to be and that's enough for me....
..(We do not govern?)...... I can remain centered even when one of my larger character defects is "that need to be right",,Man do I want to let you know!!!!!!! Thank God, I feel like I remain teachable and can now step back,but takes continual work.............
