My mother in law and father in law are leaving tomorrow to head back to Florida after 5 days stay with us and we a 10 day stay with them. My father in law is bound to a wheelchair and has struggles getting around without help .A 79 year old.proud marine who feels he is a burden on everyone.My mother in law is in early stages of Alzheimers and suffers severe depression and dimentia..Yesterday my wife tells me my son wants to see his grandmother and grandfather and we pray about a meeting as we (at least I) havent seen or talked with him in almost 2 months since last episode of ,relapsing,stealing our wedding rings and denying all...After prayer and debate we decide to meet at a diner ,telling my son we can't have him around the house for now anyway.While we are there, he announces him and his girlfriend are going to have a baby.The meeting was a blessing,my in laws got to meet Meagan and see Eric and visually tell him they love him and in semi shock congratulate him.I give him a giant hug,congratulate him(without all the fatherly things like 'HOW THE HECK YOU GONNA HAVE A BABY,NO JOB,STILL ON THE JUICE,ARE YOU USING,STEALING ETC).All I said was I love him,he is in the big time now and God is in charge.We did not go back to 2 months ago.or further.....My wife wants to be excited but of course she is doing the same,'HOW THE HECK GONNA HAVE A BABY ETC!!!! We both agreed ,NOT OUR AFFAIR. his part of taking personal responsibility and will have to make a way.I guess I just wanted to share how blessed I really am to be in a situation to see the joy in my wifes eyes (even though she is exhausted)by having had so much time with her parents and being able to be helpful in a loving ,caring,(sometimes shaking my head:) manner!!To be able to have made a decision with my son ,take action,move out of the way and let God take over and really know in my heart that he will have to continually learn to fly on his own just like we all do.Life is a continuing progression of emotions,situations and joy and pain.Thanks to reliance on the God of my understanding,the continuing practicing of spiritual principles afforded me through Narcotics Anonymous.a desire to remain teachable and willing to do the work,I can relect as I pray,run,walk,work and in all endeavors be truly grateful to not only be here today(God's grace) but to feel I am still growing and learning one day at a time! Life is different groupings of fleeting moments,Im so glad to be 'ALIVE" Man "what a long strange trip its been"!!!!!
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Excellent accounting Mike, thanks you. When I'm able to let go a little there's a lot of hope from it. I hope everything is well in your life and your family is happy.
I hope that son of yours gets a graceful blessing from God that changes his life forever and he realizes what lifes about for him, wake up call in another words.