All you gotta do is reach out,,, hands in the air !!!

Normal, I've been told, is the setting on a washing machine. Others before me have suggested we "act as if" that works for me too.

The steps have been suggested, that has worked for me as well. In fact every time I find myself in a dilemma I recognize that I'm at step one again on a given situation.

Step 2 is absolutley necessary if I'm going to move forward. If I skim over this and say "I know who God is, I'm this, or I believe this, or try to skip over this step and don't do the work, Sponsor a suggestion but the heart of the NA way, and flatbook another suggestion.

I think your question is valid, but I'm not certain we "Feel" our way out of this disease. It's been my experience that the intensity of feelings can often be a personal issue and that IS "Normal" for some of us. I am in that group.

I'm going to point out a couple of things here that are my opinion so set you boundaries and let me know if you disagree and I will surely stand corrected:
1.I have no problem meeting ppl but then they see just how profound my probs are and sooner or later they all leave. Yes, this is a true statement, at some point all people will have to live their own lives and may go away from ours, a few will stay, they are called friends, support groups. Step 1
2.i don't wanna be alone nemore: Step1 Powerless over others, and 2 Never alone again.
3.i want to not fear the outside world per say. Step 3 Turning our will and our lives over relieves the fear. Not all at once, a little ata a time. Recocery is like eating an elephant. The book tells us that fear is a lack of faith. Faith doesn't come over night, but it comes.

As you go out the way Don suggested, your anxiety level is sure to come up, but you'll stand it. Next time you go out, you'll go a little further, you're anxiety level will increase, but you'll stand it.

Before you know the minutes will turn into hours, the hours into days. You're going to have setbacks, it's bound to happen, what you tell yourself about them is crucial. Recovery is an active change in attitudes and ideas.

I pray for all of us to overcome our fears.

"Recovery is an active change in attitudes and ideas." And dang, it's a lot of WORK. And it is never DONE...there is no cure for this disease, only blessed remissions. We have a daily reprieve based on our spiritual condition (to borrow from another fellowship's wisdome). That means I have to condition my spirit. Which is what the first 11 steps bring me to...the awakening that gives me half-a-chance at staying clean & sober today (and free of the active symptoms of some other disorders I happen to have, which are a threat to my sobriety if I don't get a grip & deal.)

                              
Was a nice sunshine morning and I was singing my song and playing my horn,,,,,,,,,

did some gardening too,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

    And then I had an idea,,,,,,,,,,,

                                                                                                                          
I called her and said " Missed you",, 
and spoke on matters of the  

Love you babe,,,,Youre still my 

This lead to a date,,,,,,,,,nice one,, cosy,  made me feel good............

 The movie got over and we did some coffe and donuts,,,,and
 
 So,,, next I say,,,,,"! Honey ,,, your place or mine ???"( "my  flame is burning me")

And the usual sequence,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, bliss and joy for sometime,,,,
an we   


and the morning after,, heres the scene=====
babes in rage,,,,,
 and I am

Looks like its going to  become a fight,,,,


and what with the dawgs lurking round the corner of my mind,,
lucky,,,lucky,,lucky,,,NA thinking kicks in and I pray !!! 

Presence of mind given,, so I said "lets part as friends""

And i go,, just go.......................phew...........run for cover.......close shave..........

Didnt like that one bit,,,the retreating,,, but like they say
"Cant save ass face and ass at the same time"""

And why the ruckus,,,
cause she said I snored and I said she not only snored but also talked and shouted in her sleep....