My husband is out of treatment and is staying with his parents. We have an agreed target date when he can move back into our home and it is October. October will be his 1st year sobriety date. Moving back into our home is contingent upon him buying a vehicle or some form of transportation; obtaining a drivers licenses; and clearing up his financial and legal issues so that they do not become my financial burden. In addition, my husband must continue to work with his sponsor, attend AA meeting, made amends and continue to remain clear and sober.
My husband sleeps over on the weekends and since my daughter is out of town visiting her boyfriend for two weeks I invited him over.I thought it would be a good idea for him to stay at the house.I now realize that this might be pushing things too fast.My husband feels like a stranger to me. I never knew the man sober so this is a new experience. I feel like a virgin and can become extremely shy around the man I have been married to for almost 13 years.
It feels like starting a new relationship with someone youve just started dating. We have awkward moments for time to time and will slip back into old comfortable behaviors, he will watch TV in the living room and I will either watch TV in our bedroom or read a book. At times, we are very much in tune with each other but there are a few times where I feel a bit disconnected and not sure how to proceed.
We sleep in the same bed but have not had sex, we have discussed this issue and we agree that we are both a bit uncomfortable with each other right now and do not wish to rush things. I enjoy my husbands company and I pray that we can work these kinks out and rebuild a better foundation for our marriage.
Thank you for allowing me to share my most intimate feelings.
-- Edited by DeltaRedd1984 on Friday 30th of July 2010 09:31:11 AM
-- Edited by DeltaRedd1984 on Friday 30th of July 2010 09:33:44 AM
Welcome back Delta! I love when our literature says"Easy Does it! I am sure this is going to take wok from both sides of the coin here,so trust in your Higher Power ,do what feels right and take it one day at a time..Good to hear from you...
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Our purpose is to remain clean,just for today,and to carry the message of recovery.
I agree with Feisty. You guys seem to be doing great. If you said everything was just like before, then that would be a big flashing warning. If you never knew him sober then you really are seeing him for the first time. I wish you both all success and happiness on your journey of recovery and re-discovery.
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