Hello! Please help me in the pursuit of having my husband understand, support and respect my decision to lead a sober life. I pray everyday for him. Yet he still just doesn't get it. He says I am selfish for putting myself first right now........ how can I be a better mommy, wife, friend and person if I don't put myself first and get the help that is needed to continue a sober life! Any suggestions, opinons, feelings are welcome. Please help
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If you question which way to go on a road turn one direction and start going, if you don't feel peace then turn around and go another direction for its when you feel peace you know you are on the right road!
We are only entitled to the action,, the fruits of that action will appear in Gods time.
The action of carry the message without expecting anything in return, the action of praying for the loved one without expecting immediate results, the action of oneself facing critisim and deciding that recovery is worth it,,,
these actions have made me a bette person than I ever was in all my life.
Stay Blessed, you too.
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Raman an addict clean and serene just for today in NA Worldwide ; live to love and love to live the NA Way !!!
Hi Kelley! Welcome back....As much as it may seem to others selfish your recovery must come first. You have just said it,without working a recovery process being a better mom,wife ,person or friend will become increasingly harder.Your husband may fear he is losing a partner in using together(even if it is only social for him)He may fear a change in the way it has been up until you want to stop,,there may be other reasons but your focus needs to be on you.There are other help programs available if he would be willing to attend/I am also an active member of Naranon as my 24 yr old son is a Heroin addict in recovery and even though I am an addict I can learn tools of co-dependency and other things that are helpful.Communication is very important in these matters but from my perspective I would continue to do what you need to do to remain clean.Continue to pray and I will also pray with you>>let us know how its going...
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Our purpose is to remain clean,just for today,and to carry the message of recovery.
Thank you all so much for your comments. I will continue on the road to recovery and keep my head high. I continue to pray and be strong. Thank you for letting me know its ok to put myself first! I pray in time he sees what a great life it can be sober and our marriage can grow to be even stronger. Thank you all
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If you question which way to go on a road turn one direction and start going, if you don't feel peace then turn around and go another direction for its when you feel peace you know you are on the right road!
